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Is she serious?
| Tue, 01-23-2007 - 2:44am |
Hi im currently seeing my ex girlfriend.We have been seeing each other 3 months almost 4.We have known each other for 13yrs. and 4 of those we were absent without any communication or seeing her.But since we hooked back up everything has been good we have grown in love with each other and we tell each other we love one another and that were in love.She also has a 3 yr old too just to put that out there.Anyway We have spent like everyday of December except 3 days with each other.Were always seeing one another and spending a lot of time.She has gotten into me so much that she tells her child to tell me she loves me 2.But the thing is we dont go together.I have recently tried to start a relationship with her at least the B/F G/F stage but each time she has an excuse.She has been telling me she wants to be with me and she can see us married raising her child together but she wont give us as a souple a chance.Her excuse at first was we need to know each other better then i let some time pass then it was she didnt want to rush she wanted to make sure this is it.Ive tried a few times but getting irritated.I feel that she's just not ready but she says that she is and that confuses me.What could it be, im thinking about walking because the more time we spend i fall more for her.She says she want us to be us when shes ready and on her terms.I have waited for some time now but there's a such thing as being a fool, what should I do?

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What is it that the title "girlfriend" would mean to each of you?
It sounds like maybe she's not as into you as you are into her.
If you have it in your mind that there's something that she's not telling you, or that she's seeing someone else, those thoughts are going to bring tension into the relationship.
If she's sure that she loves me and wants to be with me then whats stopping her.
I totally agree.
I feel like im worth more than to be left in the wind to wait around for somebody who clearly seems that their not ready and i feel like she shouldnt want to do me that way.
Again, I totally agree, and I think you know deep down what you need to do (unless you're okay with being strung along for the ride).
I'll take you all to the very beginning.When we got back in contact I was with someone at the time and but the relationship was really already over and had been for months it wasnt good at all.The girl of now continued to talk to me and i went to visit her occassionally.At first she was content with the situation until feelings got involved and one day she wanted to go out with me but i couldnt in fear of being seen and starting chaos.So she was very hurt by that then she began to tell me she really wanted to be with me but i had to break off the current girlfriend.I planned to do that anyway cause of the relationship i was in wasnt gonna last.She said she wouldnt wait forever and that she didnt want to be with me and the other girl get the privilege of actually being with me.Our feelings started to grow extremelly because we already had history together.Then I finally broke it off with my girl at the time and me and this girl decided to date first and get to know each other better.I said okay, but then her whole demeanor change after I told her my relationship was over.After some time she went from i really want to be with you while i had a girl at the time to i think we should not rush.But during a lot of the time after i broke it off with the other girl, she and I was acting like we was going together.You know the whole jealousy thing and where you been and talks of being able to be married to each other.Our relationship wasnt like a DATING couple it was more like BOYFRIEND and GIRLFRIEND.She confused me with that cause we did a lot and she said the only thing we lacked was a title and her answer was i dont wanna rush to put a title to us.
Sorry so long but this is so confusing. lol
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