Single men and leftovers............
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| Tue, 02-13-2007 - 5:11pm |
What is anyone's take on that...a man ALWAYS brings in a dish of home cooked leftovers in, every day, to eat for lunch. Is it just me, or wouldn't that indicate a married man?? If it were a single man doing this occasionally, I could see it, but every single day, ???
I just ask because I think my hormonal time of the month is making me a little more attentive to this man who is doing some consulting work for my company, a man who has been a little too attentive towards me, but all of a sudden, I started wondering about him. But there he is again today, with a piece of stoneware, brought from home, with another home cooked leftover dish from the night before, as always...
LOL, thank god I don't get "attentive" all the time, like I used to........ =:O

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I think being single means more leftovers b/c there's no one else to eat them.
I dont think you can draw a line between single-ness and always having leftovers to bring for lunch...
1) he could live with his mom
2) he could really like to cook
3) he could really like eating home cooked food and cooks for himself everynight with enough to bring leftovers to work the next day (I live alone and always find cooking a single portion of anything is too much of a pain so make extra and live off the leftovers for a few days)
good luck with the far to attentive consultant... ;)
-Glasses
Possibilities:
- Married
- Girlfriend
- Lives with Mom
- Is an amazing cook and you'd get gourmet meals every night. :)
It's worth asking a few questions to find out, I think.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
in response to "tallgirl", other options include: a charming gay man or a man with a roommate who cooks well......still, you just need to ask about the source of all of the leftovers first to figure out where things stand.... it can be an easy enough conversation segue when you see him microwaving leftovers for the umpteenth time while you are in the breakroom together or something like that.
keep us posted - you have me very curious!!!
I love to cook, it's kind of therapy for me, the smells and textures and of course, the tastes. It's also my form of art (I can't paint, draw, write, sculpt etc.), especially when I cook for others. Normally, I don't cook during the week, I have too much going on, but on the weekends, I'll cook for the week. Sometimes it's chili, chicken cutlet parmesan, lasagna, pasta and shrimp in alfredo sauce, or meat loaf, all from scratch. Lately I've been into Thai food. It's really healthy and the it's soooo good, not greasy like chinese. The sauces are extraordinary. The bad part, authentic thai ingredients are expensive, so that's more of an experiment than anything. I buy the stuff you see in the supermarket but that's garbage. I made a simple bean dip for super bowl sunday and all 6 pounds of it got consumed.
About the guy...go for him. If you're lucky you may be here venting on how his cooking made you gain a few pounds...lol.
Tom
"Is it just me, or wouldn't that indicate a married man?? If it were a single man doing this occasionally, I could see it, but every single day, ???"
Too funny, waveyoga. Not to pick on you, but do YOU feel cooking daily a chore? So, if YOU were married, would it be any different? Likewise, amongst your girlfriends, could THEY possibly cook every night to provide their husbands with daily leftovers? See my point? With the exception of a stay at home mom/wife, not many 21st century women really have the time for cooking all the time as they are likely two income households.
So anyway, others have listed possible reasons. Now, have you seen what kind of leftovers are brought in? Speaking for myself, I can have leftovers from chinese takeout as well as from going out. Since I like to cook, I do agree that cooking large batches or on weekends also allow for more regular leftovers as well.
Instead of merely guessing, why not ask? Here are some possible icebreakers that requires an answer that is likely to reveal some truth.
1) M-mmm, that smells great. Did you cook it yourself?
2) That's a great looking dish, can I have the recipe?
3) What's that dish called?
4) I smell (name some ingredient), am I right?
Anyway, be creative. Questions like these are likely to reveal whether he cooks, someone else made the dish, or are simply leftovers from a restaurant. Good luck.
OK---update, and TGIV (thank god for Valentine's day) It gives me insight........
Because of Valentine's day, I have heard him now, on two different calls to two different women, one apparently in a different state than we are in, saying to each of them, "Hi BABY! Sweetie...yes, valentine's day...baby......"
Twice now, to two different "sweeties"
LOL, as I said, thank god I don't get too worked up about these kinds of things any more...would be nice though, to be something other than eye candy for men who are committed to other women. If this man has two sweeties, let alone one, why he keeps checking me out, and giving me these hurt puppy dog looks, ???
I like your very practical advice for questions to ask to find out a man's relationship status w/o sounding like you're fishing.
It takes a man to know a man :)
I have a similar problem. I'm way too shy. I really like a colleague at work and was too shy to ask if he's married. So I would agonize over his behavior, little clues about what he said ect...Then after 4 months of this, he volunteered that he is single. Now I want to know if he's dating anyone or has a gf. How do I ask? I thought about asking if he had plan for valentines and all I could say was happy valentines. I only see him once a week and he does't work on site so I don't know what his environment is like.
I'm glad you liked my response, however, I'd say it is more my logical, analytical engineer brain thinking rather than simply understanding other men. :-) In your case, I'd say you missed a great opportunity with today being V-day.
One way or technique of asking someone an inquiring question is to assume some fact and then make a complimentary remark. For example, you start with an assumption that he has a wife/girlfriend because he is good looking. You then ask, "So where are you taking your wife/girlfriend for Valentine's dinner?" If your assumption is incorrect, he is then forced to say he has no wife/girlfriend. You then come back with a compliment by saying, "I'm sorry, I figured as handsome as you are, you'd have a wife/girlfriend". You see? You can easily disarm people by way of flattery or compliments.
Now that you've missed your chance, you might consider a future encounter by asking about the past of where you again assumed he might have taken a wife/girlfriend to dinner. It could go something like, "So did you take your w/gf to a nice restaurant for V-dinner?"
or perhaps "What did you get her for V-day?" Yes, you do take the risk of a snappy "none of your business" type remark, but that allows you to check out his manners on whether he says a polite "I'm sorry, but....." vs a "none of your business" answer.
The whole idea is to politely "intrude" on personal matters, creating an opportunity for a good vs bad answer. Sure, the questions on the leftover dish steered away from seeming too personal, but it still was a test in a way to see how he would respond. Grouchy people respond grouchily no matter how polite one is.
If he had on a nice outfit today, a complimentary comment/question could have been..."I see you're dressed up nicely for a V-day dinner tonight." Once again, an incorrect assumption would allow him to correct you.
Now, I'm certainly not guaranteeing this technique will always work, but as always, being polite is key and then apologizing afterwards allows a second response of "Oh, don't worry about it. You didn't mean it." Of course, that's assuming he is a nice person as well.
Good luck.
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