I can't help but feel something....
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| Tue, 02-13-2007 - 6:19pm |
I can't help but feel something is missing
I am a 23 year old university graduate with a kick ass job that I love and that will enable me to buy my own condo with out parental help this spring, I have the best group of friends a girl could ever ask for, my family is awesome and stable... and yet there is something missing...
I have suffered from depression in the past (not something ANYONE would ever guess, I am a chirpy happy person on the outside... but my depression stems from anxiety...)
I have been through therepy and I know that I can't allow and should not allow the fact that I'm single to bring me down, but lately it really has!! Its not that I'm currently single, its that I've always been single... I'm 23 years old and never kissed the same guy more than twice... I have ZERO relationship experience and worry that the longer I keep on this way, the more of a "whats wrong with her" it will become....
I've tried online dating and could not stand guys i dont know telling me I wasnt hot enough or too fat (I am neither... I firmly believe I am attractive and I know I am not even in the classification of chubby....) or to meet a guy of a dating site who looks nothing like his profile pic and then you find out all the other lies that were on his profile.....
I have many close male friends, but they are all boyfriends of my close friends or guys I would never be interested in romantically...
any ideas on a way to break my terrible luck with guys?? OR to convince myself that something IS NOT missing from my life at the moment???
-Glasses-R-Sexy

I think it's a little easier for me to embrace my single life because I have had some long term relationships. I am able to appreciate my freedom a little more.
Try to think ten years down the road, if you can. You will probably have a terrific job, you will either be in that condo or better. You will have university behind you and you will be financially secure, all on your own. Some women never have the satisfaction of purchasing their own home and living independently.
Also, some people, not just women, place too much importance on finding a significant other. This is their main focus in life and some cannot focus on school or career. While you may be looking at some of these friends of yours and feeling that you are missing out, I would guess that some of them will be experiencing the same ten years down the road. It may not be love they are missing, but being independent, successful, financially secure, these are things they may never be able to attain on their own because their goals were different from your own.
Yeah, you may be missing out now but things have a way of working out. I'm sure you're a cute girl and you will have a lot to offer a good guy some day(not that you don't now). These goals you have set and achieved for yourself will make you doubly attractive : ) Try to look at it like that : )
Been there...done that...
I can't tell you how it irked me too that guys I don't know online who were only borderline treated me like I wasn't good enough. Can't tell you how many male friends I had in the past I wouldn' t be interested in no matter how sweet they were or how long I knew them. If it isn't there it isn't there.
You can't deny your desire for a RS it's a natural thing. For me it has always been there. IT ebbs and flows depending on my mood and what's going on around me. Lately I've been taking a sabatical fr dating. not that i don't want it. It's just seems so unpleasant and requires heap of effort. I like it better when I can do something for fun and meet someone that way instead of focusing on going to organized single events.
What works for me sometime is to busy myself with acitivities. Right now i'm trying to schedule time to play tennis or get together with other gf's and go dancing or do something fun.
Hey, girl!