options options...!!!

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Registered: 02-24-2007
options options...!!!
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Sat, 02-24-2007 - 10:23am

helloo guys. i dont know what to do!!!

option a) meet up with guy who like, not usual type, quite attracted to, would like to get to know better, good to talk to, have a lot in common but complications concerning history with friend.

option b) persue a guy who i know is interested, v attracted to, dont know well at all, enjoy just flirting, bit nervous about taking further.

option c) do neither, carry on as usual with guy been seeing and im comfortable but bored with, let other two down.

I know its hard to comment because you dont know details but in general what sounds like the best option to you??!!!

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Sat, 02-24-2007 - 10:43am

Are you exclusive with the last guy?

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 10:43am

Whoo Hoo! I agree with the last poster...just play it "safe". I am dating again and suddenly I have 4 women who want to date me, or get to know me better. One that I am very Intensely attracted to(not just physically either) and sh has already asked me if I am interested in looking further(for an exclusive girlfriend) I said "maybe, I am not sure yet". I don't like to play games, ya know. I am too old for that . 47 and Do want a mate....but I just don't want to Lose myself and forget my Own personal goals ?

How about you ?

designergrl47

"Thoughts are things! Think Good ones!"

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Registered: 02-24-2007
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 2:41pm
wow 4?! yeah i think i will have fun with all three, i get quite emotionally torn up though juggling 3 at once... i know what you mean about playing games.
I always enjoy the first part of relationships, getting to know guys, teasing and flirting but maybe a little to much. I love my personal space and time, have a fear of commitment and love to 'play' with guys! But at the same time of course would love to have a special connection with someone special. I am in conflict with myself!! Aaaaa! Its like i dont want to give up to much of myself, even though i know deep down nothing is set in cement, still getting serious always scares me. o well.
xxxxxx
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Sun, 02-25-2007 - 2:45pm
Guy A, I would not persue due to this history he has with a friend of yours. Why not keep things going with guys B & C? I'm a strong believer in the three man rotation theory! (As long as everyone involved knows that you are dating other people)
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Registered: 09-19-2006
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 10:58pm

Hi,
Wouldnt touch a. if it involves possibly hurting a friend. I mean do you watch the hills? he whole jen and brody/heidi/spenser business just kills me.

I would not settle for C. screw that. I would go with B and see how it turns out. If it doesn't work out then you seem like the type that doesn't have trouble finding a guy!

Don't stop until you find mr. right--for you that is.

Good luck!

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Registered: 02-24-2007
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 7:14am
I read your post a couple of days ago and totally agreed. B certainly does seem like the best option and the cutest by far! However, ive been thinking more and more about Guy A and i really like him, just think that we would have a deeper connection than i would ever have with B or C, because we are very similar people. He also intrigues me alot. Then again, this would make me a very bad friend. B would dfinatly be the most passionate and C is the safest and easiest. Now i am still just as confused..xxxxx
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Registered: 09-19-2006
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 11:57am

Hey,
Well this is most def a tough one. I mean its hard not to pursue the guy you feel most intrigued by. I mean do you think your friend would be hurt by this? What is the history? Are you really good friends and does she have someone new and is she totally over it? Because if not it causes all kinds of problems! For not just you and your friend but then mututal friends as well...its like having to pick sides.

Actually one of my best friends had one of our other friends do that to her and it was years ago and it still haunts us today. Becuase the new gf (still with my friends ex) just moved to our city. I haven't told my best friend because i don't want to upset her.

So definitely find out with your friend if it would at all bother her...

Good luck!