Grrrr...MEN!

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Grrrr...MEN!
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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 10:38am

So I got up this morning and did the first thing I always do on the weekends- I checked my email.

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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 11:00am
Why do you have to respond?
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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 11:18am

Please dont take this the wrong way, but maybe it's better if you DONT respond to him. If he has this big of an effect on your heart and your life...it's better to just let things lie where they are.

There's no real reason to keep re-opening the past and all those old feelings and emotions. He screwed up...he let go of an amazing woman. If he now has regrets, well that's his problem. He should have thought long and hard about what he was doing, before he put you through all the heartache. Frankly, it's none of his business what you're doing or who you're with now.

He made his bed...now he has to live with what he's done. Not you having to keep going through the endless BS, everytime he decides to get a wild hair up his butt and contacts you out of the blue! Only then to disappear again out of your life...and you're left wondering "What did I do this time!?!"

Ok...I'll get off my soapbox now....just thought I would put my 2 cents in!

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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 11:58am

I just have to respond.

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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 12:14pm
At the least maybe you could have given yourself til tomorrow to respond since it was in your work email. But it would have been better to delete. I'm sure that's the advice you'd give anyone else.


Edited 8/12/2007 12:16 pm ET by crabulous
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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 12:30pm

I still would have responded tomorrow.

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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 12:38pm
Probably not but I can respond if I want and I did. The title of your post and the information in it gives the impression that you're irritated with and hurt by this guy yet you respond to him? I don't get it. That's why I asked why you responded.
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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 12:46pm
Men just don't get it. A friend of mine's boyfriend broke up with her last November because, after 5 years, he decided he's "messed up and doesn't know what he wants." Well, NINE MONTHS LATER, he STILL calls or texts her ALL the time, saying he misses her and he loves her, and he thinks about her all the time...but he's still messed up and still doesn't know what he wants. I tell her every time his name comes up that if he doesn't know what he wants after all this time, he never will, and he doesn't want HER to move on, so he keeps trying to manipulate her into not getting over him, and she's falling for it. She won't tell him to go "eff" off, though. And because of this, she has not moved on, there are several guys interested in her right now, and she can't get any closer than an arm's length to any of these guys she's dating because she won't cut ties with the ex. I kind of feel bad for the two guys she's dating - they both really like her a lot. :(



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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 1:00pm

Guilty as charged. Yes, I dated Mike for alittle over two years. And I fell hard for him. I was so in love with Mike. And I did every thing under the moon and the sun to try to make our relationship work.

But when you find out he's screwing around with another girl (now mind you he'e 36 and she's 22), a co-worker(and she was married at the time)of his...there's not much you can really do. After dating him for a year and then living together for another year...he flat out tells you, that he never wants to get married and he never wants to have children. That's a hard blow to take. And he tells you he still cares about me, but doesn't love me anymore! NOW WHAT IN THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN EXCATLY!!!!! Because I'd love to know!

But then not even a month after we split...she's then living with him...and a long story short...their daughter was born in March of this year, and their planning their wedding for next year. Tell me that's not enought to just ripped my heart right out of my chest!

I was crushed! In more ways then I can ever fully express. And it was HARD getting over Mike. And there are times, when I'll see something or hear a song on the radio..and it'll take me back to when we were together. Or, it'll bring back a memeory I had tucked away inside my heart. Oh yes, I know excatly how you feel.

There's one song I cant listen to, without it bringing tears to my eyes. Because it was "our" song. And if I hear it on the radio...I'll change the station. It's that painful. Incase your wondering what song it is...it's by Kenny Chesney; "You Had Me From Hello". Even now I can hear the song playing in my head.

So yes...more then you realize I understand how hard it is to let go of someone you love that deeply. They have a way of embedding themselves into your soul...and you just cant get them out.

And even though I've closed that chapter of my life and I've since moved on and dated other guys. Mike is the one, I'll never completely get over. He's more then likely the one man I will love for the rest of my life.

If that's how you feel about this ex of yours....then yes, I completely understand the situation you're in.

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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 1:13pm
Funny how it's always a Mike....lol. I've had similar troubles getting over Mike. And I kind of dropped out of life for like 4 years now. He'd actually have to put himself in front of me - face to face - to get me to respond to him. Otherwise, he's dead to me. Broke my heart in a million pieces and I'll never speak to him again.
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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 2:12pm

I had a Mike, too!

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