How far is too far?

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Registered: 03-28-2003
How far is too far?
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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 11:12am

I have been wondering this and if there are any guys to offer opinions as well, that would be great.

~ You have been on a date or two, you really like him, how far do you go physically?

~ You meet a guy at a bar, he is really nice, what happens that night?

I am not talking just making out or sex but holding hands, etc. Do you let him make the first move?

I was in a relationship for almost 5 years. I haven't dated that much since but every time something happens, I wonder if I went too far. I kissed a guy I met on the night I met him. Is that too much? I am always looking back wondering? I have learned my lesson about what I am comfortable with but was just wondering what other ladies think. L

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 11:37am
Generally speaking, go with your gut, not your hormones. I generally do not kiss on the first date or first night of meeting a guy. I don't want to kiss somebody I don't even know yet. But not everyone is like that. Go ahead and kiss and hold hands. But don't let your raging hormones get the better of you and DO NOT sleep with them I would say at least six weeks to two months after meeting them. Take the physical stuff slow. They will respect you more for it in the long haul.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 7:21pm

I think the answer will be different for everyone.