Is it ok to man block?
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Is it ok to man block?
| Tue, 08-21-2007 - 10:07pm |
Do you think it's ok to warn a girl about a "bad boy"? I know a guy who is so disgusting to women when we go out ( hes with mutual friends, not me). I had a fling one night with him months back and since have realized what a jerk he is. He always hits on my friends and a few weeks ago he hit on my friends' friend and i warned her he should keep away from him b/c he treats women badly. Well apparently he is still upset weeks later at me for warning her, and they are now dating! Whys it matter if he has her now anyways? He wont let it go. Anyways here's my question: Is it ok to co*k block to protect someone or should you just let them learn the hard way?

For me I believe in each adult needs to take responsibility of their own lives. If they don't ask me for my perspective, advice, or experience then I don't offer it.
Look back at your own life. Did you listen to other people's "wisdom?" We each have our own path to walk.
Mark
I agree with Mark on taking other people's "wisdom."
I'd say let your friends learn the hard way. Especially since you have a past with this guy, they may just assume you're jealous.
I think your heart's in the right place, but it is their lesson to learn.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
As far as giving a heads up on a guy, I don't really see the harm. If it's not done out of jealousy, and it's done in a simple fact-based way as shy described, it could turn out to be helpful. Unfortunately, advice is very easily ignored in the midst of infatuation/hormones. And, of course the guy was mad at what you said - you're interfering with his game! Sure, he got this girl, but you could hurt his prospects in the future. :)
I think it's fine, you're friend can then take that tidbit of info and do with it whatever she chooses. I take everything I hear about other people with a grain of salt and draw my own conclusions. If a girlfriend warned me about a guy it wouldn't stop me from going out with him once or twice but I would remain more alert to the things she mentioned and watch for a trend.
Someone told me that when people ASK for advice they usually want to validate what they already want to do and ignore it if it does not match it. This usually frustrates the advice giver.
I know for myself I resent people who give me unsolicited advice.
So for any comments given here, it always depends on the individuals involved in the situation on whether or not it is "appropriate" to do/say whatever it is.
Mark