Calling on an old love...
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| Thu, 08-23-2007 - 9:53pm |
Yes. This is another "first love" question. I still do love him and I still care about him but I have no desire to be in a relationship with him again. Actually, I just moved away from a man I just started to love and become comfortable with. I want to find something else to occupy my mind. That's where my ex comes in. I'm thinking about him alot and I do want to catch up and possibly get involved sexually with him. I tried calling his cell number but it must've changed. His sister was an acquaintance of mine and I'm wondering if I should contact her to get his number. I don't even know if he's in a relationship or married.
Is it a good idea for me to contact her about him and ask about his relationship status and for his contact info??? If so, what's the best way to ask. (She and I would go out on rare occasions and were in school together)

I believe in leaving the past in the past.
You admitted that you just left another relationship in which you really cared for the person. You say you don't want a relationship with the old fling, but want to "catch up and possibly get involved sexually with him."
In my opinion, that sounds like a recipe for disaster. If he was a first love, think about if it is really possible for you to be sexually involved and not get emotionally involved as well. If he's really not a good match for you - why go back at all?
I would let yourself get over the recent guy, and don't bring up old baggage that might get in the way of truly moving on.
AJ, enjoying life with C.