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| Tue, 08-28-2007 - 1:45pm |
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I am on two dating websites. I have noticed a lot of men on these sites want a "beautiful" or "hot" woman. One young guy, even told me there wasn't any "quality" women on the site. I checked out the other women my age and found they were sweet, smart, fun and cute...I guess not good enough for him because they were merely "cute" and not "hot".
I had a first internet date last Saturday. This was another man who wanted a woman who was "beautiful on the inside as well as the outside". Was he very good looking? Nope. He sure thought he was because he said "here we are, two very attractive people and still single". This guy's hair did not look healthy, and he wore knit nylon sweat pants and top to our date. He had zippo style. Yet, he still wants someone "hot"?
Don't get me wrong...I don't think a man doesn't have value if he isn't hot...but it makes me ill when they demand the woman be hot when they are clearly NOT.
The arrogance is just astounding to me. In response, I added this to my ad:
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Many men on this site and others want a "beautiful" or "hot" woman. If a merely cute or sweet woman is not good enough for you, do not call on me. I am not interested in being someone's trophy or arm candy...I want a real relationship. Don't feel you can buy my love with your money/sophistication/or age. OK? I am more interested in true intimacy and real friendship. Oh, if you demand someone "hot" remember you need to be just as hot yourself. Two way street.
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Have I lost it? hahahaha
A Quick edit: I took it down as soon as I realized it was not positive. The good thing is it made me realize what bothers me about these men and how I'd rather be with someone more humble. Live and learn.
Edited 8/28/2007 1:53 pm ET by lv2breathe
Edited 8/28/2007 7:57 pm ET by lv2breathe

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Hell no, you haven't "lost it"! Good for you for posting that!
When I read the posts of some men on those sites, it always makes me laugh...especially when they have posted their picture and they are either mediocre-looking or downright unattractive - yet they list themselves as "good-looking". If only MY self-esteem were so healthy...LOL.
As far as wanting only "hot" or "beautiful" women, well, it's all in the eye of the beholder now isn't it? I agree with the previous poster in that there is definitely a reason why such men are still single.
Bravo!
Seriously, it irks the h3ll out of me when men on those sites seek perfection when they can't offer that themselves. Even worse when they claim to be attractive when that is to subjective. I say let me decide if you are actually attractive or not, don't declare it as it if were a fact. I think I'm a looker but you'd never see that on my profile. I figure they can look at the pics and judge for themselves.
Idiots!
I once had a guy get all bent out of shape after reading my profile on Match. He sent me a nasty email saying something to the extent...
"So I was looking at your pictures and I thought to myself, well she's *kind of* cute. Then I move onto what you're looking for in a man. I kept reading and saw that you're looking for a man who is 5'10" and taller. And I think to myself, WTF she is only 5'2". What are you looking for perfection??"
Now, I am by no means full of myself, but I do happen to find myself a great catch. I think I am attractive on the outside, as well as everything on the inside. This guy was NOT the slightest bit cute AND he was only 5'4". I think he was insulted that I would not date another fellow "shorty" and felt the need to tell me he only thought I was average looking.
Needless to say, be very careful on these sites. They attract all kinds and it is easy for those to mislead themselves and others.
~Heather~
Edited 8/28/2007 4:34 pm ET by capegirardeau
My approach for OLD is to know that how we are on a profile website is not how we totally are in person so I go for "close enough" and see where it goes from there.
I have responded to women who are looking for men in a different age and height range than myself and have met them. I find it is a chemistry thing and that can only be determined face-to-face.
I know that for most women (almost regardless of height) their height preference cut off is 5'10" and taller. I'm 5'7.5" (I round up to 5'8" grin) and had a wife who is 5'11". I also know that women think I'm in my 40s (I'm 54. I chalk that up to my Asian genes) and have had a gf 12 yrs younger than me.
I have met women who look a LOT better in person than their profile picture (and visa versa). So my point is that I use OLD sites not as a way to find the perfect woman but to actually meet someone, not to screen them out.
Mark
I guess I am confused here.
My post was not about dating short men or the fact that I won't. I don't use dating sites to screen what I am looking for. Actually one of my most cherished ex's happened to only be 5'6". We saw eye to eye when I had heels on.
But my post was not about dating or not dating shorter men. But the fact that an insecure guy had to cut me down because he was insulted that I would not date anyone shorter then 5'10". Those numbers are just preferences, not a end all, be all.
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