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Met a girl at a bar
| Tue, 08-28-2007 - 2:09pm |
hey, havent posted here in a while, anyway I have a question. (just to refresh everyones memory, I'm 22 male just out of college)
Ok, so I never meet girls at bars, I'm just not the bar meeting type I guess. Anyway, so I was at a bar on sat and one of my friends pointed out that a cute girl was looking at me. A little later she ended up sitting down next to me and we started talking. Turns out she's originally from the same area as me, also just graduated, and works right near me! But... the issue is, I was pretty drunk. I really dont remember much else about her. We exchanged numbers, and I have her saved as "katie "bar name"" But I'm not even 100% her name is Katie...
I mean, I remember really enjoying the convo, and she said since most of her office is pretty old she normally eats alone... and we could easily meet up for lunch...
But, how do I handle this, should I tell her straight out... "hey its "my name" from "the bar name" from sat... She'll say hey. Then should I just start in and be like... sooo, I just want to be straight with you. I was pretty drunk on sat, and remember a only a few things about you. That you are really cute and seemed really cool, that we work close, and that you normally eat lunch alone. So I was wondering if you wanted some company for lunch tomorrow?
Would that come off oddly or does that seem fine??
Thanks for the help, I just never deal with meeting girls like this... I usually meet people at parties, or through other people. This was just a 30-45min encounter at a bar that ended early because it was close to last call (hence me being to drunk to remember much)
Ok, so I never meet girls at bars, I'm just not the bar meeting type I guess. Anyway, so I was at a bar on sat and one of my friends pointed out that a cute girl was looking at me. A little later she ended up sitting down next to me and we started talking. Turns out she's originally from the same area as me, also just graduated, and works right near me! But... the issue is, I was pretty drunk. I really dont remember much else about her. We exchanged numbers, and I have her saved as "katie "bar name"" But I'm not even 100% her name is Katie...
I mean, I remember really enjoying the convo, and she said since most of her office is pretty old she normally eats alone... and we could easily meet up for lunch...
But, how do I handle this, should I tell her straight out... "hey its "my name" from "the bar name" from sat... She'll say hey. Then should I just start in and be like... sooo, I just want to be straight with you. I was pretty drunk on sat, and remember a only a few things about you. That you are really cute and seemed really cool, that we work close, and that you normally eat lunch alone. So I was wondering if you wanted some company for lunch tomorrow?
Would that come off oddly or does that seem fine??
Thanks for the help, I just never deal with meeting girls like this... I usually meet people at parties, or through other people. This was just a 30-45min encounter at a bar that ended early because it was close to last call (hence me being to drunk to remember much)

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Is texting really ok in this situation?
I mean, it just seems a bit wrong… I don’t know, asking someone out for the first time via text? Although I’m sure it would make it seem much more casual, and I would avoid making an idiot of myself over the phone…. If everyone agrees with you, maybe I’ll do that instead.
Also, I’m usually told by girls I date I’m dorky, yet really sweet. So does telling this girl I was drunk and don’t remember much of our convo make me seem like an as-shole, or is it more of an awkward dorky thing (which I don’t mind at all) because it would most like come up anyway.
Also, yeah, any ideas on figuring out her name would be great :)
Edited 8/28/2007 3:04 pm ET by kerplunk237
I agree with cml - don't admit to being too drunk to remember details. That's just a turnoff.
Just call (please don't text!) and say "hey, it's Kerplunk from the X bar Friday night. The guy wearing the X. I enjoyed our chat, and I was wondering if you might like to meet for lunch this week."
Simple, straightforward, easy.
You just met once, so not remembering her name for sure is not a big deal. Just say it was so loud in there you didn't catch her name, or something like that.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
Well, the only reason I suggested texting was so he wouldn't have to ask for her by name, but I suppose that's not really an issue with cell phones...and I do agree, after a half hour, not knowing her name for sure (though you may be right, since you remember so many other details) isn't such a big deal.
Ok, call, I agree. :)
I'd say call - don't text- and just say, Hey, this is "Joe" from Bar X the other night. I was wondering if you'd like to meet for lunch on Thursday.
Odds are she's not going to recognise your number, so she'll let it go to voice mail.
Then when she calls you back, she'll say hey, this is Katie/Karen/Kara...whatever her name is...and you're saved!
Don't mention how drunk you were. It's a turn off and she'll think you were only seeing her through beer goggles.
OOOOO I just thought of a great idea.. call at a time I know her voice mail will pick up... that way it'll say "hey, this is katie, leave a message"
god I feel like I'm in a seinfeld episode
edit: also I think she'll know the number. She saved me in her phone as well.
Edited 8/28/2007 3:43 pm ET by kerplunk237
You're killin me.
Good to see you back here. I always enjoyed your posts. Wish I were 15 years younger.
Ok. 20 years younger. LOL
Ok, ok, ok, don't text!! :) I got wrung out on a rail for telling you that!
Anyway, I just said it so you wouldn't have to use her name/ask for her, but on second thought and seeing everyone's ideas, I suppose it's not such a big issue. I was just picturing a land line-type call...."can I speak with Katie? Or Kelly? Or Katherine? I don't know, something like that." :) One definite benefit to pretty much everyone answering their own cell phones.
Just don't admit you were drunk, that's a turn off and makes you seem a little like a drunken frat boy. :)
Edited 8/28/2007 4:03 pm ET by cml7721
I think that's a great idea to call her when you know it's going to go to voice mail.
But....... just in case it doesn't, how 'bout IF she answers you could say, "how do you spell your name again?" If she says, "How did you spell it?" You could say, "Well, it was pretty loud and I'm sure I messed it up, so, how DO you spell it so I got it right?"
More than likely if you flat out ask her HOW she spells her name she won't expect it and won't ask anyway.
But I agree with everyone else, don't admit you were drunk.
You probably got the name right anyway and really if she wants to go to lunch with you, she won't care that you got it a little wrong. Heck, maybe she doesn't remember your name if it was that late!! LOL
Well I gave her a call tonight, and it didnt go to voice mail :). Sadly, she didnt say her name... so I'm still unsure.
Anyway, she's busy tomorrow during lunch, and I'm busy thurs and we're both moving fri/sat, so looks like we'll be getting together next week. But, she seemed VERY happy to hear from me, so that good.
Thanks for the advice/ pep talking.
So anyway, since that craziness is gone, hows everyone been? Is that guy who asks ridicules questions about getting girls drunk still around? He was sadly amusing.
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