To those of you who think I'm a good guy

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Registered: 05-17-2007
To those of you who think I'm a good guy
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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 9:37am

This will change your mind.

First off, I havent called the girl from last weekend back (maybe I will tomorrow or tonight, its just been a crazy weekend)

So, I have never made so many bad choices in one weekend...

Thursday night me and most of my office took a trip out to a minor league baseball game.

Well, long story short, I drank WAYYY too much for a work function, and me and one of my coworkers got kicked out for being too drunk. Then we started making out by the bus (for those of you who remember, this is the girl I was thinking about sleeping with at work about a month and a half ago) Anyway on the bus ride home we started talking about sexual history (I dont remember alot of this convo). This was around many other coworkers... and bosses....

Then a few of us just hung out in the parking lot until 3 to sober up... When I drove home I was NOWHERE near sober. Bad Choices.

friday I moved, so this was fine.

Sat I went to my best friends new apartment, (who is living with my ex). This was actually a fun night where nothing bad happened.

Sunday :-/ - I went out to a bar with a group of friends. Wasnt very drunk at all, and went back to a friends to continue drinking. Well, she likes me, I do not like her like that at all, and she has a boyfriend... Well, we luckly didnt sleep together because of monthly situations. But we came as close as you could... I'm pretty sure she's planning on breaking up with her current boyfriend (who is a great guy) to try for me, and I'm not interested, but I'm pretty sure I'm leading her on like crazy. :-/ I'm a d-bag

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 9:56am

Have you yet realized the common thread in all of these situations? It certainly sounds to me as if you drink too much. I never even did that whole scene in college, but that's one thing, staying in that mode is definitely another. I feel like you have good intentions that go by the wayside when you drink too much and it's DEFINITELY not healthy to be drunk or "not that drunk" two or three times in one weekend. I hate to be preachy, but I'm not sure why else you would have posted this.

On another note, where'd you move to? In general terms, I'm not looking for an address. :)

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Registered: 05-17-2007
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 10:51am

I know I drink too much. I really need to get out of the habbit. I'm going to try to stay with 4-5 drinks in a given weekend night.

I moved to the Brookline Village area (right where harvard st and washington st run into eachother by rt 9)

I love it!




Edited 9/4/2007 10:53 am ET by kerplunk237
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Registered: 06-26-2007
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 11:32am

Why would anyone post things with the intention to prove they shouldn't be liked or trusted!?

Weird!

Anyway... I think you need to get a handle on your drinking. And if you can't do that atleast stay home and out of trouble (and not risk other's lives).

Finally, I think you need to approach this girl you don't like but used for a make out session and tell her you are sorry, you should not have done what you did and you hope the two of you can still be friends. But make sure you don't give off the impression (with flirting or gestures that could be misconstrued) that you care for it to go anywhere.

I look forward to posts that prove you are worthy of being liked and trusted! :)




Edited 9/4/2007 11:33 am ET by luvmansbestfriend
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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 11:34am

That's a great area...I wasn't even moving this weekend and I still felt frazzled by all the activity. :)

Honestly, I do think you seem like a good guy in terms of your intentions, like I said. Alcohol can just undo all of that work, so to speak. And if you like this girl, CALL HER....otherwise she's just going to think you're either not interested or indifferent/aloof.

I know being busy is your excuse, but is there another reason behind it?? :) I'm just curious because it drives me NUTS when guys do that (wait a long time to call).

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Registered: 05-17-2007
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 12:05pm

I think I'm pretty indifferent about her... I dont know, I mean I see there could be something there and I think she's really cute... But, after a week, its not like I feel like I'm missing something big.

The main reason I'll give her a call is really because I usually eat alone, or dont eat at all m-w, and she works so close. So it would be nice to have someone away from work to grab lunch or coffee with.

I mean, looks wise she's my type, but personality wise it may just be a flat out no. I still want to give it a shot, but I dont think I'd be missing something amazing if we just never met up again. Also, I think we left the last convo open to either of us to call, so I'm not even sure if she's just waiting for me, or has chosen not to call.

Meh.

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 12:20pm

>>I think I'm pretty indifferent about her... I dont know, I mean I see there could be something there and I think she's really cute... But, after a week, its not like I feel like I'm missing something big.

Well...yeah, that makes sense. But why not? If you're not looking to date, I can see that, but you might find out that she's a great person in addition to being cute. I think I'm just confused. Have you gone out yet? I forget...I know you met at the bar, but you also said you were a little out of it and weren't sure of her name. How can you know anything about her personality?? :)

I'm really not trying to be rude, just throwing in my two cents.

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Registered: 05-17-2007
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 12:29pm

Ha, nahh we havent really gone out yet. We spoke on the phone for a little while, and she seems really nice and such, but I dont know if there was much of a connection there. Like I said, I'll definatly give her a call again, but I'm not going to get upset if things dont develope into even hanging out again. But hey, this may be really good for me, because I'll definatly be more calm going in.

I'm confused myself, dont worry

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 12:42pm

>>But hey, this may be really good for me, because I'll definatly be more calm going in.

That's true, I always get myself all worked up and it's BAD. I met a friend of a friend this weekend and I asked her about him and he'd asked about me. SHe said she'd let me know what was up, and I started to get anxious when I hadn't heard, so I stopped myself and thought wait a second. Who cares?? I'd like to go out with him, but if I don't, there will ALWAYS be someone else. I always take things too personally, too....but I suppose knowing my problem is half the battle and I DID calm down.

So do you know her name yet? :)

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 1:07pm

Well, whether or not we think you are a good guy is irrelevant.

Simply by posting this, it tells me that you WANT to be a good guy. My advice -- limit yourself to a drink or two tops so you can keep a clearer head when you go out. Then, set boundaries for yourself about which women are off-limits (coworkers, girls with boyfriends, girls you don't actually like, etc.).

Stick to those rules and you might have happier memories from your weekends.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 1:36pm

I'm a little concerned about your drinking habits.

You've stated multiple times that you can't remember things because you drank too much. And your drinking affects your interactions with others.

What's going on with that?


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