I don't want to have crushes!

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Registered: 04-25-2004
I don't want to have crushes!
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Mon, 09-24-2007 - 12:14am

This is going to sound way wierd - but bear with me!


My last relationship ended over a year ago, and to be honest, I had zero interest in guys for the longest time.

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Mon, 09-24-2007 - 7:33am
I understand how you feel.
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Registered: 07-13-2007
Mon, 09-24-2007 - 11:45am

I am not a huge sports guy, but

We in America do not have government by the majority. We have government by the majority who participate.
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Registered: 04-25-2004
Mon, 09-24-2007 - 7:19pm

Thanks, you are both so right.

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Registered: 09-27-2007
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 2:08pm

Hi Star,


I was bored at work and was browsing when I came across your "Blog" or post? Not sure what you would want to call it, but it caught my attention, as I hope my response catches yours.


As I read your (oh for heavens sake lets call it a post) post, I realized that well, apparently I'm not the only one that thinks the same way. Except that from your time line, it seems I've been in the boat for a little longer.


Let me give you a back story so you understand: In 2002, I fell for a guy that I had met a year before in a computer class.. He just waltzed into my life after mysteriously disappearing after the

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Registered: 10-02-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 4:09pm
I can identify totally with your post, but I love crushes because they are safe. I used to be annoyed with them but then I learned to have a little fun. Fantasies are great. Total control and no messy break-ups. Just don't go off the deep end and remember that this is pretend and pretend only... no psycho stuff. I've found that the crush gradually wears off and for awhile you feel pretty good and you are no worse for wear. Actors are best because you will probably never meet them, extra layer of safety. I like being single now, I was in a relationship for 7 really long years and when it came to a very bad end I couldn't bring myself to date again. Having to deal with someone else all the time does not appeal to me anymore. Don't get me wrong I love men, I just don't want to have to put up with the same one everyday.