I really need support

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Registered: 08-14-2007
I really need support
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Mon, 09-24-2007 - 9:03am

I haven't heard from my bf since saturday night. He didn't call me all day yesterday so i called him 2 times later on in the day (once around 9:30 and then around 11:30). I still haven't heard back from him. I literally feel sick to my stomach and am having a hard time breathing, im so upset. We've been dating about a month and he always makes future references and stuff. I don't know what to do. We work together so I will have to see him there some nights, im so worried. I can't sleep or eat anything. Someone please talk to me.

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Registered: 09-24-2007
Mon, 09-24-2007 - 9:29am

yuck...I'm sorry about the hard time he's giving you. Have you guys had any fights or issues lately?

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Mon, 09-24-2007 - 9:57am
no, things were good.
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 09-24-2007 - 1:35pm
Do you usually speak every day or several times per day? I ask because one day doesn't seem that long for him not to have called. I wouldn't panic, and I agree that it's a good idea to distract yourself with other things and not just wait by the phone for his call.

Also, one month into a relationship can be a time when people start to settle into a relationship and start to set boundaries. It's possible that he's not really a phone person (I'm not, so I relate to that) and he doesn't feel the need to call every day, so maybe he's backing off of that aspect a little.

I think it's best to wait and see. You are still getting to know this guy, I'm guessing, so look at this as learning more about him. Don't read more into it than is actually there. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 08-02-2007
Mon, 09-24-2007 - 2:51pm
>> I literally feel sick to my stomach and am having a hard time breathing




Maybe he is feeling the same (or worse, may have stopped altogether (j/k) ), which is why he can't return your calls. You are reading too much too soon.


Edited 9/24/2007 6:15 pm ET by capegirardeau