I don't like being single again...
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| Thu, 09-27-2007 - 12:00am |
I am having lots of trouble being single again. I've had a lot of boyfriends through college and my last relationship lasted 2.5 years and just ended a few months ago. I thought he was the one....but apparantly he changed his mind..or maybe he never felt the same way all along and just "faked" the entire relationship. I still have a lot of unanswered questions, which I'm sure many of us do after a break up.
I constantly get hit on by guys at work, or male friends of mine who have been waiting for me to be single again...but I'm just not interested. I know I shouldn't compare these guys to my ex, but I was so in love with my ex and I can't imagine putting my heart out there like that again. Before this guy, I was always the one who broke things off with guys before things get serious, because I'm either bored or we don't click. So you can imagine my heartache now that I'm on the other end of the break up. I still feel so torn up inside. I've spoken to all my friends for advice and comfort but no matter what I feel like I'm at a loss. I don't mind going on a few dates here and there, but in the end someone always has feelings for me, and I don't have anything to give right now.
OHhh! As I write this...my Ex just messaged me online..if you can believe it. I haven't spoken to the jerk in 2 months and he sends me a message now?? He just wrote "Can we please not be like this, I want us to be cool, not people who never talk and hate each other. " And you know what? I didn't write back. I keep reminding myself, he broke my heart twice. We broke up twice, and he ended it both times, giving me a false sense of hope. I'm sure I just need more time to get over this. I don't know how long these things take...especilaly when you were convinced you were with the one. :(

I really think you just need more time.
Hey guessgirl21 - I'm going to *guess* you might be selling yourself short. Your instincts have served you pretty well so far, so be strong and resist the temptation to respond to your ex's message! Sometimes people make mistakes and end up getting back together. But if he's broken your heart twice, that's enough. You deserve more and I know you will find it.
In the meantime, remember that nothing is more attractive than someone who is taking good care of herself and knows what she wants... and doesn't want. And what you don't want (or need) is someone who takes you for granted.
MM
I know you are hurting right now and can't imagine being happy again.