When is the time right?

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Registered: 09-27-2007
When is the time right?
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Thu, 09-27-2007 - 3:02pm

Hello! My name is Melissa and I just signed up. I figured I should write something other than replies to other people.


I'm 22 years old. I've spent the majority of my life being single, with the exception of two relationships.


I tend to crush a lot, but for fear of the worst, I tend to sabotage the whole thing before it even begins.


I have just never been good at this whole dating thing. My mom spent a good portion of my childhood explaining to me that although she would never change what she has with my father ( married 26 years, dated 5 years before that = 31 years and still happily, grossly in love) that I should be independent and should not concern myself with boyfriends and what not, that will come along when it does.


Well, a fast forward to the present, I'm 22 years on, in college, have my own place and single. And it doesn't suck, I enjoy my privacy. Its that there are

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Registered: 06-26-2007
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 3:37pm

( married 26 years, dated 5 years before that = 31 years and still happily, grossly in love)


Not what you were expecting others to comment on - I'm sure.

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Registered: 09-27-2007
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 3:59pm

Thank you for responding! And yes I do appreciate the example that they have provided. I acknowledge the fact that it isn't easy to stay married, much to many's dismay. It's a very difficult project ( i guess you can call it that) that they have been able to succeed in so far. But its nothing to take lightly.


There is an exception though, they found each other, and thats what works. I think that as long as you find the "One" ( you know, the movies are all about "the one") everything works because neither one want to let go. Its finding the one thats really the hard part.


Its funny because I'm always the advice giver in my circle of friends and family. And it always seems a little harder for me to understand my own advice when its given back to me.


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Registered: 08-27-2005
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 6:42pm
Welcome to the board :) I agree w/ the other poster, enjoy being single and young. As my mom would say "you have your entire life to be married/in a relationship" lol a friend of mine is 24, married w/ two kids and just yesterday she told me wished she had waited and enjoyed being young, single and free, your time will come to meet someone.