Possibly have a date from plentyoffish

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Possibly have a date from plentyoffish
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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 1:28am

Hi all,


It's been quite a while since I posted here, but thought I'd come and ask for some advice.


Tomorrow, I have a date with a gal I met on plentyoffish.com. I am exited, as we have chatted quite a bit, and she seems like a nice girl.


Problem is, I am very nervous, as I have not done the dating thing much at all in my 30 years on earth, and when I have, it has never gone further than the first date.


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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 5:22am

Bless your heart, Sonic! I'm pulling for you.

I vote no on the rose. Save that for a later date.

I vote no on holding her hand, and no on buying her something, unless it's a pack of gum.

The thing that would impress me the most is a guy who sems really interested in me, not just in talking about himself all night. You don't have to overdo it, just keep her talking about herself. Naturally, she'll want to know about you, so of course, you should tell her about you.

A real turn off for me is a guy who tries to become sexual on a first date. I'm no prude, but I'd like to think a guy wanted to get to know me, not just go to bed with me. So I'd avoid any sexual comments. It's OK to tell her she looks nice, or you like her bracelet, that kind of thing, but don't overdo it.

Also, make sure your table manners are up to par. Plus, be nice to the waiter--don't order him around. And of course, I hope you are paying for dinner. Even if she offers to pay her share, insist on paying. And leave a 20% tip unless the service is horrendous.

At the end of the night, you'll just have to make a judgement call on whether to kiss her goodnight. If you do, don't make it some long, wet sloppy kiss. Don't try to get her to commit to a second date that night, unless it just comes up naturally in the conversation ("I hear Bjork is coming to town next week, I'd really like to see her perform"). I'd wait a couple of days to call her after the date. It's best to not appear too eager. Interested is good, too eager isn't.

I wish you all the best! --FG

Avatar for cl_shywon
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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 9:29am

I'm with FG- no rose, and don't offer to buy her anything.

Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 12:38pm

Well, I would have suggested that you make the first meeting a short one for coffee, but it sounds like it's too late for that.

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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 12:57pm

Everything I wanted to say NWW said it.

Soliel
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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 2:43pm

Just keep it as light as possible, sonic, but do pay her a compliment if it's an honest one.