Women Popping the BIG Question???

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Women Popping the BIG Question???
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Wed, 12-26-2007 - 4:15pm

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Registered: 11-17-2007
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 4:40pm
No. Feminism has made enough of a mess of society as it is. Don't push this absurdity any further.


Edited 12/26/2007 11:18 pm ET by hillaryh8er
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Thu, 12-27-2007 - 6:35am

A man who is reluctant to ask a woman to marry him is probably not ready to get married, and that is why I would advise against a woman proposing. I think most couples (maybe I'm wrong) probably talk about marriage before the man proposes, and that's a good thing. But I still think a man should propose, and it has nothing to do with feminism :-)

I don't think it's necessary for a man to pick out the ring, though. I think it's fine for you to go as a couple and pick it out. I'd be knocked-out if a guy did, though.

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Thu, 12-27-2007 - 9:05am

I think it is a bad idea personally.

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Thu, 12-27-2007 - 10:32am

A man who is reluctant to ask a woman to marry him is probably not ready to get married, and that is why I would advise against a woman proposing. I think most couples (maybe I'm wrong) probably talk about marriage before the man proposes, and that's a good thing.


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Thu, 12-27-2007 - 11:46am

Just to clarify, when I say 'feminism' I am talking about the Andrea Dworkin's, the Catharine Mackinnon's, the Susan Brownmillers'..etc. If you don't know what I am talking about, Google

"feminist quotes mensactivism ".

The very last quote is my favorite !




Edited 12/27/2007 11:59 am ET by hillaryh8er
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Thu, 01-03-2008 - 9:08am

I would have to agree that a woman proposing to a man is a no-no.

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Thu, 01-03-2008 - 10:13am

I don't think that it really makes so much sense to broadly generalize what is "right" or "wrong" when it comes to who should propose, though I agree with most other posters that there is a general stigma that women are the ones who tend to feel ready for marriage before men are. However, I think that it's equally disastrous when a man proposes but the woman isn't ready for marriage yet. I really think this kind of question needs to be asked on a case-by-case basis, and you should rather do what feels right to you rather than worrying about whether it makes you look desperate or not.

I proposed to my husband, and we are both really happy about it: he said it was the biggest surprise, and the single most romantic moment of his life, and for sure what will be among his very last thoughts. It was actually a big surprise for me too -- I didn't plan it in advance at all, we were on vacation at the time. We were and still are so in love, and it felt so right, and the next thing I knew, the words came out of my mouth. Given how spontaneous it was, I didn't offer him anything. For us, our engagement was rather an event marking that we had made the decision to spend the rest of our lives together -- it wasn't traditional in the sense that one of us had to offer the other something as a symbol of the truth of our intentions. That said, he still bought me a ring afterwards, but just because he wanted to. I would have been equally happy without one.

I think that you should just do what feels right to the both of you, without worrying about what other people might think. Good luck!!

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Thu, 01-03-2008 - 10:32am
Hi... I really Hope that you receive this message, being that I am not sure how long ago you posted it.. My advise to ANY WOMAN who is thinking about this is to Please
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Thu, 01-03-2008 - 11:15am

I did it...read my story/response over on the newly engaged board under question of the week.


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Thu, 01-03-2008 - 11:33am

Hey, we’re the TV generation! And everything we see on TV mimicks real life…, right?


Monica did it on "Friends”, and so did Miranda on "Sex and the City." And I hear tell that Halle Berry tried it once too in real life!


Did you know Valentine's Day is the biggest proposal day of the year?


A recent survey conducted by Korbel Champagne estimated 70% of Americans agree that it's socially acceptable for women to propose marriage to men. 50% of women would propose to their significant other, and a massive 80% of men would accept a proposal from their girlfriends.


This survey had a slight error margin but clearly, the role of women in society is shaking up traditional gender roles. More women than ever head companies and households; perform traditional male work; and have broken into every conceivable social niche; controlling their romantic future isn't too much of a stretch.


So, is there a protocol for female proposals? I’ll tell you what…, it better be something as nice as I would do for you, otherwise I wouldn’t take it seriously. You go for it curvybeauty!!!


I still get a kick out of you women who want equality in the work place, equality in the courts (yeah right, the courts are totally anti-male!!!), yet you want traditional roles in sex and courtship.


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