My Poor Friend

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Registered: 10-14-2001
My Poor Friend
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Thu, 12-27-2007 - 2:20pm

You guys may enjoy this story...


I have a gf, late 30's.

Soliel

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Registered: 07-13-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 2:42pm
Is this the first time they have met?
We in America do not have government by the majority. We have government by the majority who participate.
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:26pm
Despite what HE wants, why can't SHE just say no? I don't really get that. Why be all irritated at him, when all she had to do was say no?
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Registered: 10-14-2001
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:37pm

She hasn't said "no" flat out and strongly but did, several times over, tell him she didn't feel totally comfortable.

Soliel
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Registered: 10-14-2001
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 3:43pm

Sorry left out important information.


No, they have met and hung out before....as friends. For hours, yes, but not as a date.

Soliel
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Registered: 02-25-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:15pm

AHHHHHHGGGGGGGGG!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:43pm

She hasn't said "no" flat out and strongly but did, several times over, tell him she didn't feel totally comfortable.

We in America do not have government by the majority. We have government by the majority who participate.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2001
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 1:14pm

I totally agree with the both of you.


Yes, I really get the feeling is is a quality guy and can be trusted, just a little too clingy.

Soliel
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Registered: 07-13-2007
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 1:49pm

One night after bitching to us at a dinner, the next day he called and reassured her.

We in America do not have government by the majority. We have government by the majority who participate.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 5:37pm

Let me offer another perspective. I see any relationship as the responsibility of both parties. The way you characterize your friend's situation makes it sound like she is the victim. I see she has the responsibility of taking care of herself and if she does not want the guy staying with her then she can tell him. We all have a choice. I believe if we see people as "poor" then we disempower them and do not recognize that they do have the wisdom and fortitude within to live their lives. It is a choice though.

I am not saying that he has responsibility as well but you already covered that in your post.

Mark

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Registered: 10-14-2001
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 6:33pm

Oh I hear ya.

Soliel

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