Where am I going to meet a good guy?
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| Fri, 12-28-2007 - 10:51pm |
Okay, so I'm going to be 25 in a few months and every other time I talk to my mother she gets on my case about finding someone, she says that the older I get the harder it is going to be to meet someone. I agree with her and I've been trying to put myself out there since I haven't really dated somone since I was in college about four years ago.
I'm just finding it really hard to meet someone that I'm really interested in - or at least someone that is equally interested in me back. I think I've been pretty proactive about "putting myself out there". I've tried hanging out at new places instead of going to the same bars and coffee shops in my neighborhood. My BFF and I started going to new Happy Hour spots on Fridays (not that I'm really expecting to meet someone at a bar but ya' never know). I tried to talk to a guy that my BFF knows. He works at a restaurant that we go to often- he told my friend that he thought I was cute, so I approached him and we talked and he seemed nice and friendly, but he didn't ask me for my number or anything. I saw him mabye twice after that he smiled and said hi but that was it. I tried

Well, you could come to Connecticut and meet ME! :-)
If you haven't already, check out my posts over the last week and you can see how my dating luck is going LOL
I am 29, and I will agree, it seems that the older I get the harder it is for me to find anyone, but then again, that could be just me. See, I have never been in a relationship at all whatsoever, and as you can see in my other posts, I don't know how to interact with women very well without being nervous as heck.
The nice ones are so hard to find these days, I find that the few nice onesthat are out there are all taken. I even tried the local church singles group about 6 years ago and everyone there was in ther 40's and 50's and I was 23 LOL
It seems like the only ones I meet are at the age where they either still want to go out and party (not even my way of life) or they are out of my age range all together.
What makes it worse for me, is that I get no support from my family whatsoever, in fact, their attitude is that it is "my fault that I haven't met someone" because I don't put myself out there. They have never been single, so they think it's just that easy. What they don't ever think of, is that there is no place to go but bars, and even if there was, a girl, or a group of girls, is not going to pay attention to the guy that's there by himself.
I am on match, plentyof fish, and cupid.com, and have not had any luck with any of them as of yet :-(
College is the best time to meet a long term partner. Or at least used to be. Once you leave college and enter the real world, there is a steep decline in available potential partners. Workplace romances are not practical. At your age living near a university campus, campus housing, grad student housing, etc is your best bet. You can still be active in many campus activities even if you are not a student. Just interact with as many people as you can.You mentioned you lack social skills, so that could be a problem. The deck in the dating world is stacked against the shy. So try and develop your social skills as best as you can. It's not hard. Good social skills have uses far beyond dating.
Forget paid matchmaking sites like match.com Men outnumber women about 10 to 1, and the women without any baggage (never married, no children, real job ) think just because they are paying for their membership and receiving mail from men by the gazillion, they are entitled to nothing less than perfection. You will be lucky to get a response back.
PlentyOfFish is basically a site for losers, weirdos, freaks, etc, or normal people with substantial baggage. The vast majority of women are single mothers. I hang out at PoF only for the fun aspect and for all the depravity that I learn about from their forums (eg "snowballing") :>
I just want to know if it sounds like I'm trying too hard/doing something wrong? Any suggestions about meeting people?
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Good grief! You are 25! Relax!!! LoL Boys barely are beginning to become "men" at 25. ((-: Slow down, stop worrying. If you keep that focus you will find a guy, marry him and then wonder why. ((-: Trust me, made my mistake at 26 . . .lost 18 years to it. Be careful what you are
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You are SOOOO young, LOL!