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| Mon, 12-31-2007 - 8:27am |
I'm from Mass. and I have 2 DD. I'm newly single, my marriage of 20 years ended in Sept. our relationship was 24 years long. I was 20 when we met so being single is something I never really was.
Right now I'm not concerning myself with dating, flirting yes, dating no...lol..
The hardest part for me is all my friends are married,have kids, newly married with very young kids and babies. I'd love to just go out with my friends, movies, dinner, fun !!! That isn't happening......
My friends try to give me support. have me over for coffee and a chat. But I'm out the door when their DH are due home,this hurts......
How do you make new single friends when your in your 40's ?



Hello there panda and welcome to the board!
I can somewhat relate because I feel like the blacksheep amongst most of my friends, because practically all of them are married and have a baby.
47 and was married for 18 years. (-: It is an adjustment. My personal advice from "hind site". Forget dating for the short term, go out and find those things that YOU enjoy doing,
Thank you for your reply. I'm not ready to date, when I say friends I mostly mean girl friends. My girls now are the ones that are married and have young kids.
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No rush kid. Take your time. I just bought a camera, like 30 seconds ago. (-: Old hobby from when I was young . .think this year I will play with it again. Like I said . .just pick things YOU enjoy doing, take your time and rediscover yourself. (-:
Happy New Year!
"Each problem that I solved became a rule which served afterwards to solve other problems."
Thanks again...hehe...
It's sad that I have to think about this, doing something I enjoy.
It's sad that I have to think about this, doing something I enjoy.
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No its not. LoL It is completely normal! I am a guy, so clearly on the board I am an odd ball out. But "we" are one kind of single compared to another. A lot of the girls are in their 30's, never married, and they have never stopped doing what they want. To the contrary, they refined those parts of there life, built a life around those things.
As such if they ever get married and start living in that grind you and I experienced and survived, we will have a wealth of advise to offer them. Now however they are good at being single and have a wealth of advise to offer us. It is not a "comparison" that rates a word like "sad". Don't let your head go there. ((-:
You and I went another direction. Marriage and kids, a mortgage payment and school project coming do that does not much care what we like or don't like. (-: My youngest kid is 20 now. And I will be dishing out a grand this weekend for his collage classes and books. (That is the 25% left AFTER his scholarship.) My life will never be 100% my own again. I made that choice when I became a father. You are a mom. I know you know what I am talking about. (-:
I needed that message today : )
"Each problem that I solved became a rule which served afterwards to solve other problems."