Wow...I'm so sorry that happened to you! All I wanted to suggest is, try and really evaluate if her intentions in not telling you were good, you know? She may have truly felt like she was sparing you hurt. I TOTALLY AGREE that was the wrong way to do it though!!! I had a broken engagement and my cousin ended up getting married the weekend before I was supposed to and did NOT invite me!!!! Apparently he thought it would make me feel bad. Not as bad as I felt not being invited to a family wedding!?! I was ready to tell him to sit and spin on a rusty nail, but instead ended up getting invited and I went. I believe his intentions were good but he was a moron in how he handled it. I guess you need to decide if the good in your friendship outweighs the bad, you know? Hang in there- let us know what happens!
Hmmm well I think the way she went about telling you probably should have been handled better but maybe you haven't noticed it, but maybe you've complained a lot about dating and men etc. so she didn't really know how to approach it and some people are avoiders rather than just dealing with things that are uncomfortable.
I don't understand why her picking the day before your birthday is so significant, I mean no offense but maybe that was the only day that her and her fiance could agree on that worked with both their schedules and in the month they really wanted to get married, I really don't believe it had anything to do with you when they were making that decision and I'm not sure why you took that as such a personal affront.
JMHO I do not see why any of this would send you reeling into I need to find new friends mode.
Hi,
Wow...I'm so sorry that happened to you! All I wanted to suggest is, try and really evaluate if her intentions in not telling you were good, you know? She may have truly felt like she was sparing you hurt. I TOTALLY AGREE that was the wrong way to do it though!!! I had a broken engagement and my cousin ended up getting married the weekend before I was supposed to and did NOT invite me!!!! Apparently he thought it would make me feel bad. Not as bad as I felt not being invited to a family wedding!?! I was ready to tell him to sit and spin on a rusty nail, but instead ended up getting invited and I went. I believe his intentions were good but he was a moron in how he handled it. I guess you need to decide if the good in your friendship outweighs the bad, you know? Hang in there- let us know what happens!
Jen
Hmmm well I think the way she went about telling you probably should have been handled better but maybe you haven't noticed it, but maybe you've complained a lot about dating and men etc. so she didn't really know how to approach it and some people are avoiders rather than just dealing with things that are uncomfortable.
I don't understand why her picking the day before your birthday is so significant, I mean no offense but maybe that was the only day that her and her fiance could agree on that worked with both their schedules and in the month they really wanted to get married, I really don't believe it had anything to do with you when they were making that decision and I'm not sure why you took that as such a personal affront.
JMHO I do not see why any of this would send you reeling into I need to find new friends mode.
Smile,
Deirdre
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