I'm lonely and I need a new hobby

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Registered: 10-16-2006
I'm lonely and I need a new hobby
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Fri, 01-04-2008 - 4:38pm

I've been doing much better after my breakup and move to a new city.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-04-2008 - 8:52pm

sounds like you need some people around you and to make some new friends. some of your hobbies, like mine are solitary. I knit, read, watch movies, make greeting cards, piano, cook, etc. I do belong to a book group, spiritual stuff. ( not religious) I love it. People are like minded. I am feeling a little bit like you in the sense, the holidays are over and it is the January feeling. If I were planning a trip, it would help but i have been doing some home remodeling.

I would search your mind as to what your interests are and esp/ look for things to join up with new friends. Book groups, political, indoor tennis, music???? dance lessons. you'll figure it out, Check out what your new area has to offer. Theater, act or help out. remember, winter is a time of rest and going inward. Leila

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Registered: 12-30-2007
Fri, 01-04-2008 - 10:07pm
Hi. January is always a rough time of year, I think! You may want to fill out a few things on your profile to give us more of an idea of things you may enjoy to suggest?
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Registered: 09-07-2007
Fri, 01-04-2008 - 10:14pm

Hello Sun,


At one time I felt very lonely and I didn't like being alone. But last year, I fell inlove with me and I enjoy my life more and more everyday!

Chelle-

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sat, 01-05-2008 - 6:31am

I don't know how long it's been since you broke up with your boyfriend, but perhaps you still need time to grieve, and that's OK. I think sometimes people expect themselves (and others) to snap out of it faster. Plus, moving to a new city and a new job: that's a lot of change. Change can be depressing and stressful.

January can be a real let-down after the holidays, I've been there. There's so much activity, you socialize more often, etc., then January comes around and --poof-- nothing.

I can relate to your friends situation. I think it's tough as a single person to maintain meaningful friendships the older you get and as people marry and have children.

All you really can do is keep trying different things you truly enjoy, even if it's a solitary activity. It doesn't help much to force yourself to do things that you don't find very much fun but that you feel like you have to. But, getting out of your comfort zone now and then is a good thing.

And if your job is boring, perhaps you could think about geting another one that you enjoy more, although of course, that's even more change.

Hang in there!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 01-05-2008 - 8:59am

How about taking a class?

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Registered: 07-13-2007
Sat, 01-05-2008 - 11:59am

I treated myself to a nice SLR camera. (Old hobbie)


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Sun, 01-06-2008 - 3:13pm

Hi-

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Registered: 10-22-2007
Sun, 01-06-2008 - 8:57pm

I completely understand what you're going through because I broke up with my ex-boyfriend almost 3 months ago. I enjoyed my holidays by doing things that interested me (like getting tattooed and reading), and I spent time with my friends. But coming back home after the holidays can feel daunting and lonely.


After the break up I realized that I didn't have many hobbies of my own. I'm taking my Masters part time, but I don't have any courses until the summer, and writing a thesis proposal isn't exactly 'entertainment'.

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Registered: 01-04-2008
Sun, 01-06-2008 - 9:10pm

Hotcarmel,


You have just explained the secret of life.

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Registered: 11-17-2007
Sun, 01-06-2008 - 9:13pm
>> Sometimes I look at things through the lens before I even click the shutter.



Good practice. All too often people get overwhelmed by their surroundings and want to 'get it all', so they set their zooms as wide as possible. But how a scene looks in a two dimensional 2:3 frame versus how it looks to the eye are two different things. Visualizing a scene in a frame is key.