don't settle for less?!!!

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Registered: 12-02-2007
don't settle for less?!!!
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Wed, 01-09-2008 - 10:55am

I'm single and independent with a busy lifestyle since

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Registered: 06-18-2007
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 9:52pm
I'm so impressed by your common sense. I'm probably twice your age, and it's taken me a divorce and a recent bad break-up to make me realize that I've been settling for less all this time. It is so worth being single and being in control of one's destiny than to fall for the fantasy romance and realize it was just attraction, with no real substance. I am older now and sometimes I think perhaps it will be a long long time before I have the relationship I'm holding out for. But I think that's ok. I'm learning to like my own company and getting to know who I really am.
If someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
If someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Thu, 01-24-2008 - 12:18am
Thank you for posting this!! I've been trying to tell my friends this - many who were on a "mission to marry" (and would look at me crooked for not being interested in anyone) and are now either stuck in a bad marriage with kids or in the middle of divorce. One is on her 2nd marriage after learning her lesson and she is now happy.

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Registered: 09-28-2005
Sat, 02-02-2008 - 6:23pm

i think u r totally right, iv always wanted what u want ever since i knew what love is , one of my main fears is having a bad marrige, and with all the bad marriges u see it is hard not to fear it , and i think few people are the ones who r lucky to get a good marrige with a good man they love , but it isnt impossible either.. u should just find the balance between your heart and mind i guess , i mean u want a man u love but if he has real issues it isnt gonna be pleasent, iv learned from my experiance and others that men dont change.i awalys belived love is all there is , now i know it isnt true, you have to think too and be resonable..and pray to god u get the man u deserve but also work hard on your relationship..but have faith and wait for ur true love, some day the universe will bring u together belive in that..dont try to be too perfect though , i tried that , he will just get full of himself and take advantage of u .. good luck to u and all of us