Bitter & Frustrated--what can I do?
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Bitter & Frustrated--what can I do?
| Wed, 01-09-2008 - 3:14pm |
OK, this is a bit of a venting post, but I swear I am at my wits end. I'm so sick of dating...putting myself out there, getting my hopes up and then finally finding a guy I like only to find he's not interested in me. At 33 years old I don't know how much more I can take--I'm sick of watching friend after friend find their perfect match while I have no one. I'm sick of being forced to continually find new friends when my friends marry and suddenly have no time for me. I'm mature, attractive, fun and witty--in fact every guys best friend, but time and time again end up being just the buddy. I don't date cheaters, losers, or people that don't treat me well so its definitely not that I'm looking in the wrong places. I'm putting myself out there. I don't fall in love with anyone who pays me attention--in fact I'm very down to earth and realistic about who I like (ie I have to like them for who they are, not just b/c they are paying attention to me)--hence the fact I don't like many people so even having crushes is few and far between. In fact the last three guys I've even been at all interested in I've later found out is already taken. its just so frustrating. All I ask for is a guy who is kind, makes me laugh, treats me well and who I find attractive--so I'm not too picky. I have a full life and a career and friends I enjoy. In other words, there is nothing wrong with ME, nothing I can "fix" or that I'm doing wrong. So why can't i find my happy ending? Yes, I'm happy by myself and have been for SEVEN years but at the same time I want a family, a husband and kids and am sick of waiting. How do I keep going through this another day???

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What are you doing to "put yourself out there"?
No,no, no, you are not looking for any of that. That's what you tell yourself. If you really did, you would have found it long ago like many of your friends you went to college with.
What you are looking for -- is a drug to give you a high. Metaphorically speaking of course.
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ps: I also tend to use emoticons sparingly which can make things harder to interpret. But I will make an exception here, ok ?
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Edited 1/9/2008 6:59 pm ET by hillaryh8er
Z
Hillaryh8er
I am not sure if it matters if your intent is to not be this way.
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Yes, yes, I hear you. My apologies. I keep forgetting we are living in an Oprahized society where it's fashionable to shed tears, where shedding tears wins you applause, and to be offended at every little thing, and to have hurt feelings, and then to talk about your hurt feelings, and your feelings about your feelings, and how you feel about feeling about your feelings.. Sigh. Yes, I understand we are living in a feel-o-centric society. My apologies again to all offendees.
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