Unrequited "love"

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Registered: 07-01-2005
Unrequited "love"
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Thu, 01-10-2008 - 9:11am

What can you do in a situation like this one?


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Registered: 10-14-2001
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 11:42am

Since he is the one who cares the most...put it in his court.


You already told him that you would be interested in being friends...now let him lead the way since it's his feelings more on the line.


It seems to me when he asked how things were going that would have been the right time to tell him the truth (that you aren't really feeling romantic towards him), instead of saying you need more time.

Soliel
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Registered: 07-13-2007
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 11:49am

So, the question is this: do I completely sever ties with him? I am still dating and exploring other options. He said that he will always be my friend, no matter what. However, I just don’t want to continue to feel guilty all the time. Unrequited “love” (I’m sure it’s not love yet) is difficult to deal with, I’m sure. I don’t know what to do here…


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Yes, you sever all ties.


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Registered: 11-17-2007
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 4:41pm
It's not love. As a (relatively) older man he is discovering the novelty of a younger chick.




Try this test. Next time you are having a private talk, look at his eyes. Do they scan your face from forehead to chin (or further south) and back while either of you is talking.. or does he look you straight in the eye. A steady gaze into your eyes will tell you he is paying full attention to what you are saying.




This is the same gym guy I presume ?
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Registered: 08-12-2007
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 5:16pm

Thanks for your reply!


LOL! This isn't the gym guy...funny that you remembered that post! The gym guy