My Delima

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Registered: 07-04-2007
My Delima
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Sat, 01-12-2008 - 6:02am
OK this is a long story but i need help. I have been dating this guy for a few months. We aren't officially boyfriend and girlfriend, but we've only seen each other for a few months.
I used to sleep around a lot, but i am trying to turn over a new leaf. So I am making him wait. I know he wants sex and he's been asking for blow jobs but i keep telling him i want to wait and take it slow. He hasn't even seen me naked, although he's been asking to. I have seen him naked but that's another story.
anyways, i went on winter break with some of our friends. He couldn't go because he didn't have enough money. Well one thing led to another and i reverted to some old ways. I spent most of the week naked.
Now I'm back and he's found out and he's upset that his friends have seen me naked but he hasn't. I keep telling him that it was a winter break thing and we aren't official and i still want to take it slow, but his feelings are hurt. I think what happened there stays there.
What should i do? I don't want to compromise my principals and i don't think a girl should do what she doesn't want to.
Anne
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Registered: 02-08-2005
In reply to: anner1985
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 10:23am

It's kind of like the saying, "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas....." Try not to beat yourself up over this. Ok, you went on winter break and resorted to your old ways, temporarily. If it made you feel uncomfortable, then don't do it again. It's entirely up to you. If you still really like this guy, continue to take it slow. Someone apparently must've told him what happened. You don't have to do anything you dont want to do or feel uncomfortable doing. You can try having a talk w/him and tell him what happened and that it was a mistake and how it won't happen again. But it's entirely up to you.

I'm sure that others will chime in as well & offer their two cents worth on this. Keep us posted!

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: anner1985
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 10:27am

How old are you, Anne?

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Registered: 07-13-2007
In reply to: anner1985
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 1:28pm

What should I do? I don't want to compromise my principals and I don't think a girl should do what she doesn't want to.
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Ok, I am a guy. And I do have a different take. Begging or not this guy

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Registered: 11-17-2007
In reply to: anner1985
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 1:35pm
"Compromise your principles". You are being facetious, correct ?
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Registered: 07-04-2007
In reply to: anner1985
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 5:29am
I won't give in to his begging. He knows I might be ready for sex someday soon, that's why he sticks around. I'm just enjoying the courtship right now.
Anne