Fresh start

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Registered: 12-15-2005
Fresh start
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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 7:59pm
How long should you wait before dating or even starting another serious relationship after being with a man for 2 years?
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Registered: 02-08-2005
In reply to: vixen1974
Mon, 01-14-2008 - 8:26am

This is just my two cents worth on the subject, I don't think you should automatically start jumping into someone's arms right after you split up w/someone.

5yrssm 
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Registered: 07-11-2001
In reply to: vixen1974
Mon, 01-14-2008 - 11:54am

I think we are all different about how much time to wait and it often depends on how the previous relationship ended.


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This sounds like me when I first came out of my relationship last year, and the funny thing is this emanated from me totally when I started going out with my GFs to social situations. Men could 'smell' the anger I had towards the opposite sex and they responded to it by not necessarily being very friendly towards me. Some were downright telling me I was heinous wth my attitude. And to be honest I was.


Once the bitterness began to lift away, probably took me 3 months and my attitude towards men softened I started being asked on dates.


It's all down to how you project yourself. I don't care how hot you are - if your attitude towards men is jaded- it will show and they won't respond.


Give yourself whatever time you need to heal. I had everyone and their mother telling me I needed to be on my own for at least a year. In whose book? Not in mine. After 4 months I was back on the wagon, not bitter towards men (they aren't all my exBF) and getting dates. I haven't been in a committed relationship since last year but that's fine. I am actually taking the time to

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Registered: 07-13-2007
In reply to: vixen1974
Mon, 01-14-2008 - 1:30pm

How long should you wait before dating or even starting another serious relationship after being with a man for 2 years?


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Until you find that when you are sitting at home alone in the evening reflecting on the past you no longer feel pain, anger, resentment . .etc. But rather you understand the lessons you have learned and feel an anticipation of what new things you will discover with that new information

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: vixen1974
Tue, 01-15-2008 - 9:41pm
When there is forgiveness and love in your heart for him and yourself.
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Registered: 09-16-2007
In reply to: vixen1974
Wed, 01-16-2008 - 1:35pm

Its really up to you. Some women want to wait becasue they want time to work on themselves and then get in another relationship. What have you learned from your last relationship. Will you do things differently? What will make it work this time? Think about it and be happy if a nice guy comes along don't pass it up because they are hard to come by.

 

Mireya-Zestfulone

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Registered: 01-09-2008
In reply to: vixen1974
Wed, 01-16-2008 - 4:05pm

Date many guys and have fun. You'll feel good about yourself, you won't lose your edge, and you'll meet some nice people.

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Registered: 12-15-2005
In reply to: vixen1974
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 3:33pm
thanks everyone for replying it is all excellent advise. I shall read some of yours and some other messege boards as well. Isn't single life fun? I'm hitting the gym!