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| Thu, 01-17-2008 - 12:29am |
Hey everyone! I havent posted in a while, but I just have some weird.... issues lately.... ok, lately it seems almost everyone in my life is either married, engaged, or getting engaged. Lately its making me go crazy. I literally feel like the only one "left" almost, inadequate. A friend of mine eloped last week. Another old room mate of mine just got engaged after only dating his girlfriend for 5 months! My sister, is not engaged yet but thats all she talks about and what her "future plans" are w/ her BF. I feel left out, lonely, sad. And mainly, I feel like my life SUCKS. Almost like its a "happiness" i will never know. Its almost as if I want to be part of the cool married peoples club. I guess I should backtraft a tad. I am 24 years old, and quite honestly, as this stage in my life, I do NOT want to get married. I have so many goals that dont include a husband, but its almost suffocating. Everywhere I go. THats all my girlfriends want to talk about. Its almost more of a life "accomplishment" to get married than to even graduate college. I guess I am just feeling very insufficiant to everyone else's life. My friends myspace page is filled w/ cute wedding photos. Mine is filled w/ pics of my dog. I just feel like my life is lame compaired to everyone elses. I know its not a contest, or a competition, but i just feel like it is. You know?

Hey there Bailey & welcome :-)
I can somewhat empathize w/you because I have days like that a lot.
Just wanted to let you know that at your age, 24, I was walking down the aisle and getting married. I didn't even think I would marry so young - I wasn't in a hurry but it happened.
'..I fully believe you can't make a rational decision before the age of 25'
Absolutely. Although... 25, you think? I'd say 30. With very rare super-mature exeptions, honestly, you don't even know who you are till you're 30. You think you do, but you don't. I'd personally
Absolutely. Although... 25, you think? I'd say 30. With very rare super-mature exeptions, honestly, you don't even know who you are till you're 30.
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I'll go with the 25'ish idea. From 18 to 25 it was like I was almost two different human beings. After 25 . .I have changed some, but slow, stable predictable changes
'..The big huge value system is in place by 25 or so I think'.
Absolutely, agree, well said too. For marriage though, 'for ever and ever till deth do us part' etc etc.. I still say 30 at the earliest lol. Unless we ban it alltogether? :))
Absolutely, agree, well said too. For marriage though, 'for ever and ever till deth do us part' etc etc.. I still say 30 at the earliest lol. Unless we ban it alltogether? :))
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For some 25 is still to young. The "settle for" conversations that happen on the board . . .it is often obvious to me why relationships aren't working. (-: Lust gets confused with love, money gets confused with success and security, good looks get confused with attraction . . . pick your cliches. (-: Sometimes I honestly shake my head and smile at what I read. (-: Of coarse I am just a guy who has gotten it wrong before and sees some of those "old" thoughts glaring back at me. ((-: And I am as likely to get it wrong again as right in the end. ((-: Knowing what I was getting wrong last time doesn't tell me what I will get wrong next time.
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The married people's club thing made me laugh!
>>Life shouldnt be a race, because the faster you run, the faster it ends.
Chelle-
Amour-Propre