I think I need therapy......
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| Sat, 01-19-2008 - 7:42pm |
Ok, I know I've posted about this before..wondering if there was something wrong with me..bc I don't like dating, I will be 40 next month..etc...first of all..YES, I've dated..I've been in 3 serious relationships..I've partied all night....been there done alllll of that..........
I think seriousely by 40, I am just tired of TRYING........I don't dream of being in love, being married, having kids..etc...in fact I get extremely stressed when I think about a relationship....very claustrophobic...I am so used to doing my own thing and not having to worry about anyone else...I am so happy being single..and no one seems to understand it.......I do not get depressed when I think about what is missing from my life........I am strangely very content being single...living alone with my dog!! I am very attractive (not to brag...), career oriented, indepenedent, and very proud of what I have done with my life thus far.

It's up to you if you want to try counseling. I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to stay single. I have a cousin who is 55 and single & has never married....and she is perfectly happy to tell you the truth. Your post describes me pretty much. I'm independent and like having my own place w/my own privacy. I mean, sure I miss the companionship sometimes.....but right now I don't want to be in a relationship. I went out on a date here while back with a guy that I "thought" was nice...come to find out he's a freak, is shorter than me (I'm 6ft tall btw) and he was wanting a fast forward relationship. He didn't seem to comprehend,.....lets just be friends and see what happens. Oh no, he wanted to meet my family and move in w/me in six months.......and he said all of this to me after the first date, FIRST date. WTH???
I know not all guys are like that,....but I don't want to date right away or anytime soon either. I like being my own person and being able to come and go as I please, if that makes sense. Sometimes I wish I had a bf, but yet, I don't want to be tied down in a relationship at this very moment either. I don't think there is anything wrong with you, but if you want to try counseling, that is entirely up to you hun.
I think therapy can really help when you're looking to make a change, or if you need help dealing with change, but this doesn't seem like your situation.
You defintiely don't need to have a romantic relationship, and if you can form relationships with others (family, friends, coworkers) then you know how to deal with people.