Been single forever........ *small vent*

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Registered: 03-31-2004
Been single forever........ *small vent*
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Sun, 01-20-2008 - 11:47pm

Hello Group,

So I'm new to this board, but I'm getting frustrated with my whole situation and wanted to talk.

I'm almost 25, and have yet to really have a boyfriend. When I was 20, I dated a guy for a year, but to be completely honest, I never really liked him, we were friends and should have stayed as such but he fell for me and, I was too good of friends with him to want to break his heart without giving it a try. That sounds colder than it should, but its true.

My friends are starting to get married / move in / have babies, and here I am waiting around for my first real boyfriend. I've tried the bar thing and the online thing and I just never meet anyone I click with. I'm well educated, independent and self-confident but I just can't attract/meet men. I always believed that my turn would come, but its really really not happening; and I'm not even looking for a husband, just a boyfriend!

I get that probably 1/2 the people who read this are thinking "you're 24, give it time"...but I'm starting to lose faith.


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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 9:49am

What do you mean by "real" boyfriend?

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Registered: 02-08-2005
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 12:05pm
Welcome laura, glad you found us & posted. I totally agree w/shy on this and couldn't have said it any better myself. Instead of focusing on what you don't have, focus on what you do have, kwim? When I was 24, I was still living at home as I wasn't financially able to move out on my yet at that time. Even though I live in Nashville and it's a big city, cost of living ain't cheap here, not by a long shot lol. Of course, when I was 24, I was the abusive ex at the time and for a while, I wanted to stay w/him just so I wouldn't be single again and lonely. Not good thinking on my part but needless to say, I did wind up leaving him and decided it was time to start thinking of me for a change and start focusing on my career and planning on moving. It does take time, but don't get discouraged and be of good faith! Only you control your destiny, no one else :-)
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