Broke and a bit lonley
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Broke and a bit lonley
| Mon, 01-21-2008 - 10:20am |
I am 28 and have been living with my parents since late summer last year. Due to not having a full time job or living in a busy town (I live in the middle of no where), has made me some what depressed.
For about 4 years I hadn't dated for a while untill last June when I met this bloke from a mates work, at first it felt like he was comming on a bit strong in which I let him know that I wanted him to take it slow and then suddenly he ends what we had by saying ''I'm not ready yet for a relashion-ship''
What made me more sad was not just he dumped me in a pub!but all men have said the same, I have an unfortunate grey streak (not my hair that would be cool)but I am a negative person. I have not had much experience with sex or long term partnerships, although I feel this is not a contributor to my bloke experience but more that I am not a happy bunny.
I keep thinking that men can't really take an upset female very well, it is hard to say to a man ''I am a gentle kind person just I cry allot and have times when I do hate myself, is that ok''.
I have been called selfish and clingy which I know I haven't and have been assured by many people that it was my ex that had the problem and not me.
My biggest worry is that friends who have children the same age as my neice (5 years)or are getting engaged are setled. I have begun to put myself of dating anyone as I fear they will learn I'm not a sweet little person but a dark one, which makes them annoyed I didn't turn out like they thought I would.
I need to feel a bit confident that men do care and can put up with a girl with depression, I know its hard work but its hard work for me.
Has anyone had experience of this.
Thanks Tans x
For about 4 years I hadn't dated for a while untill last June when I met this bloke from a mates work, at first it felt like he was comming on a bit strong in which I let him know that I wanted him to take it slow and then suddenly he ends what we had by saying ''I'm not ready yet for a relashion-ship''
What made me more sad was not just he dumped me in a pub!but all men have said the same, I have an unfortunate grey streak (not my hair that would be cool)but I am a negative person. I have not had much experience with sex or long term partnerships, although I feel this is not a contributor to my bloke experience but more that I am not a happy bunny.
I keep thinking that men can't really take an upset female very well, it is hard to say to a man ''I am a gentle kind person just I cry allot and have times when I do hate myself, is that ok''.
I have been called selfish and clingy which I know I haven't and have been assured by many people that it was my ex that had the problem and not me.
My biggest worry is that friends who have children the same age as my neice (5 years)or are getting engaged are setled. I have begun to put myself of dating anyone as I fear they will learn I'm not a sweet little person but a dark one, which makes them annoyed I didn't turn out like they thought I would.
I need to feel a bit confident that men do care and can put up with a girl with depression, I know its hard work but its hard work for me.
Has anyone had experience of this.
Thanks Tans x


I have done theropy and am on a course of anti depressants, it is like life has rushed past me and I have just stod there moping. I know men are not everything but people mention that I need a bloke, its more then likley its because they have one.
My down days can get bad at times, more before I have a period its a little hard to say but I did do silly things to my hand through anger. I just can't see a man wanting that type of attitude in his life. I want to get on with life but its just paused, I was training as a gym instructor and my knee gave way this was due to my cartlidge so I had surgery they found out one of my ligaments was torn and needs reconstruction, this has made it difficult to exercise and do any job with any form of lifting. I have tried to get desks jobs but I'm not sucsessfull it may be because I live in an aqward area that has one bus an hour!so I becomme unrelible.
Its like a vicious circle, I want a person to be with me at times to say that its gonna be ok. I have had a rubbish year I have been helping my mum emotionaly when her best friend was dying, but I feel I need a hug at times.
Thanks for the reply
T x
Well I live in Surrey near Redhill & Reigate, its sandwiched between Sutton and Epsom.
T x
Sweetheart. Your post touched my heart. I also have crazy mood swings right before my time of the month, and I am 38 yrs old and finally yesterday I went to speak to a counselor
I just read your previous post about your knee and bus situation. I am so sorry. Can you get out and just take a walk? Or is tha bad for your knee also? Are you seeing a physical therapist? Can they recommend any exercise that will work for you?
Is there anyway you can go back to school and train in a new skill? Nursing, teaching, computers?
Still - I would recommend the Ob/Gyn route and see what they say.
Beach