Single Girl Rant

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Registered: 11-20-2007
Single Girl Rant
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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:07pm

Okay, I know this is going to be a rant but I just need to get it out. Sorry this is long, and I'd actually advise you to stop reading now, haha. I ended a long-term relationship about a year and a half ago and since then, I have been (mostly) happily single and dating off and on. I have definetley had my share of bad dates and up until now I have stayed pretty upbeat about the whole thing, but this is the last straw and I have had it!!! I was dating a new guy for a few months who I was really into...until I realized he's a jealous lunatic who has serious emotional issues. Apparently I didn't realize this until 3 months in. Why is it that every time I think I'm making some headway here, i find out that i'm actually running headfirst into a brick wall? I am so sick of trying and I am losing my patience. I try to stay positive but I'm starting to wonder if I will ever meet anyone "normal" who has their act together. I'm sick of the drama, I'm sick of all the time and effort you put out for these things when in the end, he turns out to be a mama's boy, have jealousy issues, an std, or a pregnant ex girlfriend.

Where do you meet nice, stable guys? I go out with my girlfriends, and am never approached by a guy. Maybe this is my fault, maybe I am unapproachable but I think I am pretty sociable. What's even worse is that I've been told that guys don't approach me because I am "intimidating." Why? Apparently being fairly attractive, having your nails done, and dressing in a feminine manner makes a girl intimidating?! Give me a break!

Okay i'm done. Sorry for acting like a crazy person. I just needed to rant. Thanks for listening.

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Registered: 02-08-2005
Wed, 01-30-2008 - 8:38am

I can empathize w/you and you couldn't have said it any better hun.

5yrssm 
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Wed, 01-30-2008 - 4:57pm

No, you're not crazy.

I felt the need to comment on the whole "intimidating" thing. I hear this a lot, and I think it's society's way of keeping women down. It's a variation of "Let the man win" or "Don't compete with men, or appear too smart, because then they won't like you." Just a way to discourage women from being successful.

Now mind you, there really are some intimidating women out there. Men too. But I doubt you're one of them. Since when is being groomed, social and reasonably successful in your career intimidating? Give me a break. See, women are so quick to blame themselves for not finding a man, they think something surely must be wrong with them.

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Registered: 07-13-2007
Wed, 01-30-2008 - 7:45pm

But I've often asked myself the same thing, do I initimidate most men?

We in America do not have government by the majority. We have government by the majority who participate.
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Registered: 12-07-2006
Thu, 01-31-2008 - 6:21pm
Wow i could have wrote that myself. It has been about a year and 2 months since i got out of a 8 yr relationship and i have since dated a few guys but they all seem to have some big issue i dont want to deal with. Will i ever find a normal one for me, it gets so frustrating and upsetting. I am 24 and feel like now is the time i should be settling down right? I dont know anymore but it sucks at times and is very frustrating. I hear you girl!
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Registered: 02-08-2005
Fri, 02-01-2008 - 3:14pm

Rock on!

5yrssm 
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Registered: 07-13-2007
Fri, 02-01-2008 - 4:28pm

Rock on!

We in America do not have government by the majority. We have government by the majority who participate.
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Registered: 02-08-2005
Fri, 02-01-2008 - 10:30pm
I don't have any steel toed boots but I can try to find some and buy them if you'd like. You live down there in Miami?? That is awesome! If I lived there I'd be heading to the beach on a daily basis. I'll have to hit ya up for that dance next time I head down that way :-)
5yrssm 
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Registered: 07-13-2007
Fri, 02-01-2008 - 11:40pm

You live down there in Miami?? That is awesome! If I lived there I'd be heading to the beach on a daily basis.


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We in America do not have government by the majority. We have government by the majority who participate.
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Registered: 12-19-2005
Sat, 02-02-2008 - 10:01am

You know.., I really wish you could see it from the man’s point of view. See it from this side! Where you have walked up and initiated a convo with a girl at a bar, or dance club and had her snub you, or just use you as some way to main line an ego boost or get a free drink…, only to have her say to you later that she’s there with her boyfriend.