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What do you think happened?
| Fri, 02-01-2008 - 12:01pm |
As I've seen some very perceptive replies here before, I thought I'd post a query of my own. Fortunately, this is not a huge

I think that if he were interested in you romantically, available for a relationship, and emotionally healthy, he would have asked you out by now, given how long you've known each other.
On the flip side, he is a very political animal (I'm not) and he does tend to like writing pompous prose at times. But it does make him rather unique too and I like unique! Not sure if he is the kind of Catholic who only dates other Catholics.
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Hmmm . .. big red flags. Religion and politics are deeply held belies. First thing I say is if he is a very conservative catholic . .you better share his value system or move on anyway. Intrigue wont last in the face of rock solid, inflexible, contrary values down the road.
After saying that, if it hasn't gone romantic yet, it probably wont. If it is dying, challenge it and see what happens. If it is lost, lose it with risk if you see any value in the risk. Some men with deeply held religious beliefs are harder for me to read when it comes to women.
That said . .my guess is even if it was a value issue, it would be consistent, not slipping. Know what I mean?
I am an atheist that tends to lean conservative in a lot of my politics . . I have learned to pay attention to values carefully . .I can grate on a lot of folks as that
oldwestwanderer, yes, that's what I've suspected too. He hardly seems to be the shy type either, so I can't blame that.
oldjarhead, you raise some very interesting matters that I need to clarify. Although this man is a Catholic he is also a Democrat; and the events I've been invited to are ecumenical in nature. He seems very big on interfaith dialog and I admire that. He is clearly an intellectual but also very spiritual which for me - a Protestant - is an appealing combination a bit rare among single men. Speaking of rare, it's interesting that you describe yourself as a conservative atheist as my father, who ironically lives in the Bible Belt, is one too. No, we don't agree on a lot philosophically, but I have always respected him.
Thanks to both of you for the feedback. It makes a lot of sense.