No means No!

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No means No!
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Sat, 02-02-2008 - 1:25am

I have to vent about this before I head to bed, because although I'm calm about it now, I know I'll lie there and think about it and not sleep.


So Monday is my birthday.

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Sat, 02-02-2008 - 7:55am
Yeah not fun I totally have had that happen to me however I'm pretty stern after the first couple lighthearted no's at the beginning if they aren't meeting their mark with the person and I will just look them dead in the eye and say KNOCK IT OFF and usually they get the point. My friend K is pretty obnoxious when she drinks. Normally I just walk away from her. I would advise not going out with her again especially if you don't like being the center of attention and it's an attention centered event (promotion, birthday etc.)

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Smile,

Deirdre

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Sat, 02-02-2008 - 9:20am

Yeah, when someone says no, no generally means no and not yes. I agree w/Hockey and it may be best that she not come to any of your outings. She is just doesn't seem to get it, that when you say no the first time, or maybe the first two times, that no means no. And drunk guys do have a tendency to touch and grab in areas that they shouldn't. There used to be a place that me and some friends used to go to frequently and eventually I got tired of going w/them, because the "greasy drunks" as I call them, all they do is grab you and touch you and that just ain't me. Needless to say, I stopped going w/them to this particular bar/club a long time ago, because I just got sick of it.

Hopefully today will be a better day for you. I'm like you, I don't like making my birthday to be this big to do and try to keep it low key. Often times I try to forget it's my birthday for all the good it does lol

5yrssm 
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Sat, 02-02-2008 - 11:03am

I stopped asking her to go out a long time ago b/c of this kind of stuff.