Singledom ain't so bad

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Registered: 02-02-2008
Singledom ain't so bad
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Sat, 02-02-2008 - 10:12pm
I am in mid-40's, never married, an outdoor professional, no kids but am an aunt and enjoy & respect kids, strive to be a friend to women and men alike, do my share of volunteer work in community, yadda, yadda, yadda, and am a devoted serial, hetero monogamist. This last item said, I have had some very wonderful relationships with men and continue to do so. Since passing child- bearing years, I have no illusions of marrying or a man wanting to marry me and am OK with that, but am not so cynical and would if I found the right person. At this time, I have found that men in my life now--3 individuals-- are very possessive of me and my time, but offer no real commitment, which I find....odd. I think this has something to do with one's insecurity--exclusive of gender-- and not necessarily a male/female relationship issue. I encourage these men to seek out others socially and sexually, to the point where I am nearly telling each to get lost at times. I don't mean to seem rude, but otherwise I don't feel it's necessary to be so devoted to them. I certainly value my friends, but I do enjoy being independent and enjoying/needing alone time.
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Registered: 10-14-2001
Sun, 02-03-2008 - 11:07am

HI there....


I enjoyed your post.


The first thing I thought about when I read "being single isn't so bad" is that calming our emotions about something and not being so dramatic about something can make things better.

Soliel