Wingwoman?

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Registered: 12-14-2005
Wingwoman?
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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 11:38am

I'm just curious if anyone else has this "problem":


I have a great girlfriend who is stunning.. curvaceous hourglass figure, gorgeous face, fabulous dresser.. and, not only that, but is just a really cool person.. charismatic, artistic, sharp, and funny. The thing is, she is one of my closest friends, but whenever we go out, I feel like the "ugly stepsister". I'm pretty, fit, and fun, too, but I'm definitely not as charismatic or voluptuous

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In reply to: hngrys7392
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 7:56pm

Ya know, I did feel like that with a friend of mine at first.

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In reply to: hngrys7392
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 9:55pm

I think I can relate to your problem with a situation I had with one friend of mine. We're both cute, but she's very outgoing and friendly and I'm very shy so I would tend to take a backseat to her while she chatted with most of the guys we met.

Eventually I just had to force myself to be a little more talkative and friendly with random people. It took awhile, but I realized that not all guys are automatically going to be interested in my friend. Some actually thought she was TOO outgoing/aggressive. So, I think you just need to remind yourself while you're out that you are pretty, fit and fun too (as you already know you are) and your friend might not be what a guy is looking for anyway. People will pick up on your confidence, and/or lack of it, and if you have it you'll probably be more attractive to the opposite sex.

It may take awhile to get into your new mindset, and not every guy is going to be interested in you, but at least you will get some good practice talking and learning about different people in the process.

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Registered: 12-14-2005
In reply to: hngrys7392
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 10:57pm
Thanks for your words. :-)
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In reply to: hngrys7392
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 11:58pm

I believe that people are generally attracted more to others with attractive qualities simliar to their own. It

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In reply to: hngrys7392
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 8:10am

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 02-06-2008
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Wed, 02-06-2008 - 3:34pm
I have been experiencing this same situation and I just have to say reading your response really helped.