Can't make the horse drink...

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Registered: 06-26-2007
Can't make the horse drink...
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Thu, 02-07-2008 - 3:31pm

I've been trying to lead my horse to the water (all kinds of water: spring, flavored, etc) and yet, he's not drinking... okay enough with the metaphor. I need help.


My

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Registered: 07-13-2007
Thu, 02-07-2008 - 5:06pm

Just one consideration. Just from my own experience . .. .


New careers mean starting at the bottom. That's hard cold cash. If he lives with you, it's huge to lose the income and feel even a little leachy. So you pick money over all else . . . short term thinking sometimes, I know . . .but investing a few years to rebound on an income when you can get it back tomorrow . . ..


Other than that . . .he is own his own. (-: You cant send him off to find a dream he doesn't have a clear awareness of himself.

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Thu, 02-07-2008 - 5:49pm

I have a few thoughts.


You need to be ok with whatever he decides to do--it's HIS decision.

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Thu, 02-07-2008 - 6:46pm

I have been on both sides of the aisle where I have been out of work and have been a friend to those who have been out of work.

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Registered: 06-26-2007
Fri, 02-08-2008 - 10:03am

Thank you all for your advice.

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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 4:24pm

Isn't accepting that he feels that way about what he is capable of doing, despite being unhappy with it, part of accepting him as is?


Sheri


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Registered: 06-26-2007
Fri, 02-08-2008 - 6:09pm
sure!
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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 6:11pm

Ok--in that case, I guess I don't understand the point you were trying to make about that issue

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Sat, 02-09-2008 - 3:05pm

I realize my situation is different, as in my case it is just a friend who is looking for a job.


My friend has been unemployed for months now - first not looking for a job and just