Any tips for ending attraction

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Registered: 03-21-2007
Any tips for ending attraction
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Sun, 02-10-2008 - 10:35pm

Hello,


I sort of been board hopping around here and this first question I have posted here. Just need a bit of help.


The background on things is that I am good friends with this guy, we have known each other roughly 4 years. He is funny in his own way, very creative, imaginative, has a great job and we can nearly talk about everything.


The problem however is that he is white and I'm black. I don't object to that but my parents would naturally, and in a way he does too, though he was being politicially correct and told me that he would date me in a heartbeat if he could. However

 

Cursed_Romantic

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-11-2008 - 11:00am

The only thing that really works IMO is not having any contact with the person (or as little as possible) and letting time pass while telling yourself over and over that he isn't interested in you that way (acceptance).


Trying to remain "friends" with the guy while you're getting over attraction is pretty tough.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 02-11-2008 - 8:18pm

I agree with Sheri.

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Registered: 03-21-2007
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 3:00am
Thanks, just still kind of crazy because we don't see each other that often as he works and travels alot for work and is with gf or barchick at one time or other. I mean if I'm lucky I hear from him 2 times out the week. And as I said I only feel this way when I'm talking to him, any other time its not even there. I think maybe I'm taking it a bit more personally than I should that he is sort of shunning me and saying what I want to hear by saying that he would go out with me in a heartbeat if he were single, though I know its a lie. So maybe I do need to even cut out those 2 days I do hear from him, because I know I'm not the type to take things personally all the time, just that it makes me hyper aware of the fact that I'm everything this guy and probably a few other guys wouldn't want to be with and I can't exactly do anything about it. But hey, I'm learning from this year alone don't put too much faith in false hopes or promises. So yea, I'm going to stay away from this guy as much as possible. Thanks again.

Cursed_Romantic

 

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