The case for settling for Mr Good Enough
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The case for settling for Mr Good Enough
| Thu, 02-14-2008 - 9:55am |
Article: http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200803/single-marry
Edited 2/14/2008 7:25 pm ET by hillaryh8er
Edited 2/14/2008 7:25 pm ET by hillaryh8er

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Although hard to read, this was a good article.
Yes, it's true. If you want a family, you must have the ideal in mind to find a husband while still young enough. This should be mandatory education for all women, so they have enough choices.
I am not ready to settle, yet, though.
SasHaYa <3
If you are referring to Iv2breathe as 'bitter", then I don't know where you are coming from.
I read her post over 10 times and I don't see any bitterness.
No, I meant the woman who wrote an article...I thought it was kinda obvious ;-)
SasHaYa <3
I actually saw this lady on the Today show, Tuesday. She would not really talk about her love life or why she didn't marry her son's dad. Just said it didn't work out. She was trying to say that we shouldn't be looking for perfection and settle for a good guy. In some ways I agree, and some ways I disagree.
Chelle-
Amour-Propre
SasHaYa <3
I read the article. I didn't take away quite the negative take you did. In reading it she isn't saying grab some slob you cant stand and "settle" for him. She is just saying waiting for perfection isn't the path to a happy life.
She also seemed to be uncomfortable breaking the feminist mold. (She seemed to describe herself as a feminist, so that is an observation in context.) Maybe in the case of the extended verbiage on "admitting" she might like to be in a relationship she was talking as much to herself as to anyone that article was directed to.
Me, I tend to agree with her, these "standards" are kind of over rated. Picture those standards if you were talking about a job instead of a man. You decide you wont "settle" for a less than a
"I think if you can look past imperfection, sometimes on a second look you find something that in a few years would not be thought of as having been settled for at all. She was right about one thing, passion does turn to discussion about diapers and check books. That is when character matters quite a bit more. Life long relationships are built, they don't come in a package. Imperfection is just the thing that makes someone perfect sometimes. (-: "
Me?
From the 15 seconds she was on T.V., this was my take.
Physically-Very plaine Jane, no makeup, hair long and outdated,drab clothing. Refused to give her age, probaly 55.
She talked very articulate and sounded educated. I just disagreed with what she had to say. She was saying stuff like, women shouldn't wait around for the magic spark, chemistry etc, etc. They had another lady that gave the opposite view.
Chelle-
Amour-Propre
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