Not doing well today

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Registered: 10-14-2001
Not doing well today
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Sat, 03-01-2008 - 1:59pm

I am not doing well today.

Soliel

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Registered: 09-05-2003
Sat, 03-01-2008 - 2:19pm

Hi Soleil,

I know you have helped me out with your wisdom before, so hopefully I can return the favor somewhat.

Drowning yourself in regret will NOT do you any good. My guess is that you're seeing the past with rose colored glasses a little bit. If it was the right person and right relationship, it wouldn't have ended. I've done this myself, but at the end of the day, you have to remind yourself that he doesn't want to be with you, so it's not an option. I don't mean to sound harsh - just to remind you that it's only right if it's something you both want. I know that I have glorified a relationship from 5 years ago (also). But it was a different time. If I was with him again, it wouldn't be the same. I think I've wanted the relationship and how I felt back then, rather than wanting him.

You've got the right idea going on a hike or doing something else to distract yourself. I'm feeling lonely this weekend too, but I'm going to try to keep busy. Try not to think about the situation too much. Assume that the right guy will show up, and until then, you're going to have the best time you can.

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Registered: 02-29-2008
Sat, 03-01-2008 - 3:42pm

Sooo sorry to hear you are sad today. My boyfriend and I brokeup right before New years which threw me off completely. The funny thing was I woke up the next morning and found an article in the times bout a new online site that focuses on living the single life. It has some geat articles but wht I loved was that there ws a whole series of individuals that h site highlights as solo spotlights. It was amazing to read the response from women and men of all ages living and loving being single. All in all,I kind of made the resolution to live my bst life now...If a man comes along and I know he will for both you and me, we will be better for the time we had alone!


Be good to YOU...


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Registered: 05-10-2005
Sat, 03-01-2008 - 5:32pm

Hey, just wanted to let you know that there are people listening!

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Registered: 10-14-2001
Sat, 03-01-2008 - 6:10pm

Thanks to all of you.


I did get some relief today.

Soliel
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Registered: 02-08-2005
Sat, 03-01-2008 - 8:17pm

I'm kinda feeling the same way too, hun.

5yrssm 
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Registered: 10-14-2001
Sat, 03-01-2008 - 8:57pm

Thank you for your kindness.


I really think I probably did not understand the magnitude of the loss or I tried to move on too soon.

Soliel
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Registered: 02-08-2005
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 12:18am

One of my best friends, whom I have known since I was 14 & she is like a sister to me, lost her mother as well.

5yrssm 
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Registered: 03-01-2008
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 6:36am
Everyone has given you some great things to think about.

 

 

 

 

 

******************************************* “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again
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Registered: 10-14-2001
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 12:13pm

Of course, you are right. And I knew it when I wrote it.


I just wish I took the opportunity to grow with someone.

Soliel
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 3:00pm

"in the times bout a new online site that focuses on living the single life."

I'd like to know the web address. Do you have it?

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