I take online communication and how I/she connect with a grain of salt until we actually meet. In person chemistry is everything. I don't care how many interests we share or how good she looks like in her photos. It does not matter until we meet.
What that guy did was his way of saying I don't "have it" with you. Lying about his laundry is no different (IMHO) than when women give out their phone numbers to someone they don't like but have no intention in going out with them. Not too many people can tell the person to their face that they don't think they are a match (translation: they don't like them).
It sucks regardless but online dating is a misnomer for it's online finding someone THEN you go on a date. It's like any other blind date.
Mark
We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb
Any feedback you can give me on why you think he went from so hot to so cold would be appreciated
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First, I am a bit jaded with online dating to begin with. (-:
But a girl I met for coffee one time was telling me how she "stacked" dates . . . met several men a day . .. got to love the on line pro's . . . don't waste a moment. (I didn't waste another moment on her after that cup of coffee either.)
I will say this, when I lose out to laundry on a Friday night I don't want seconds. ((-;
"Each problem that I solved became a rule which served afterwards to solve other problems."
"If you can't get rid of the skeleton in your closet, you'd best teach it to dance."
I have my profile up on Match.com right now. Have had it up since November. NOTHING is happening. But I have done this twice before, plus I've done "traditional" personal ads. Every time I do it I swear I won't do it again, because it is so ego bruising.
Anyway, a phenomenon I have observed time and again is you can have chemistry on the phone, but then when you meet, it's like they're a whole other person. I haven't a clue as to why this is, but it's happened enough that what mhash says is right: until you meet, you really can't tell. I know a woman who became very involved with a man long distance through internet dating, and even moved across the country to be with this man (I'm not even sure they ever met before then) and of course, things didn't work out. That's an extreme case.
"John" could have certainly been more polite. I think people just don't know what to say in awkward situations, so they say something really stupid. This is why I think it's best to agree to only drinks on a first meet, preferably during the week, so that you have to "get home for an early meeting" if things aren't clicking.
>> But a girl I met for coffee one time was telling me how she "stacked" dates . . . met several men a day . .. got to love the on line pro's . . . don't waste a moment. (I didn't waste another moment on her after that cup of coffee either.)
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Sorry to hear your date when awry.
That reminds me of a date I went on with a guy several years ago who was VERY into me until our date then he just was...I dunno...blah.
I take online communication and how I/she connect with a grain of salt until we actually meet. In person chemistry is everything. I don't care how many interests we share or how good she looks like in her photos. It does not matter until we meet.
What that guy did was his way of saying I don't "have it" with you. Lying about his laundry is no different (IMHO) than when women give out their phone numbers to someone they don't like but have no intention in going out with them. Not too many people can tell the person to their face that they don't think they are a match (translation: they don't like them).
It sucks regardless but online dating is a misnomer for it's online finding someone THEN you go on a date. It's like any other blind date.
Mark
We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb
I had a meet with a man over coffee, from Match.com, back when online dating wasn't as well known/popular, back in 1998.
Any feedback you can give me on why you think he went from so hot to so cold would be appreciated
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First, I am a bit jaded with online dating to begin with. (-:
But a girl I met for coffee one time was telling me how she "stacked" dates . . . met several men a day . .. got to love the on line pro's . . . don't waste a moment. (I didn't waste another moment on her after that cup of coffee either.)
I will say this, when I lose out to laundry on a Friday night I don't want seconds. ((-;
"Each problem that I solved became a rule which served afterwards to solve other problems."
I think how it came up is he asked if I drink and one question led to another.
Thanks for all the great replies!
Oh, I feel your pain.
I have my profile up on Match.com right now. Have had it up since November. NOTHING is happening. But I have done this twice before, plus I've done "traditional" personal ads. Every time I do it I swear I won't do it again, because it is so ego bruising.
Anyway, a phenomenon I have observed time and again is you can have chemistry on the phone, but then when you meet, it's like they're a whole other person. I haven't a clue as to why this is, but it's happened enough that what mhash says is right: until you meet, you really can't tell. I know a woman who became very involved with a man long distance through internet dating, and even moved across the country to be with this man (I'm not even sure they ever met before then) and of course, things didn't work out. That's an extreme case.
"John" could have certainly been more polite. I think people just don't know what to say in awkward situations, so they say something really stupid. This is why I think it's best to agree to only drinks on a first meet, preferably during the week, so that you have to "get home for an early meeting" if things aren't clicking.
>> But a girl I met for coffee one time was telling me how she "stacked" dates . . . met several men a day . .. got to love the on line pro's . . . don't waste a moment. (I didn't waste another moment on her after that cup of coffee either.)
Who TELLS a guy that??
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