The Hostess Without A Date!

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Registered: 07-01-2005
The Hostess Without A Date!
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Wed, 03-05-2008 - 11:16am

Hi all!


I’m in somewhat of a tough situation. I am hosting a dinner party in three weeks with six guests (my two girlfriends and their dates, myself, and my date). I have been really excited about this for the past few weeks until last night. My date told me that he’ll be out of town that weekend. Although he previously agreed to the date, he told me that he and family members decided this past weekend to go out of town together to Vegas! Of course, I was pissed. I know that a dinner at my place doesn’t compare to a Vegas trip; however, I was looking forward to him coming because I hadn’t seen him in a while (he lives nearly 100 miles from me) and he is the only guy I really wanted to ask to come.


So, he said that if I change the date for the weekend before, he’d come. For a split second, I thought about it, but decided that I didn’t want to change the date just to accommodate him and also my friends and their dates have all agreed to come on the planned date. So, now, I have to either find someone to take his place or cancel the dinner. Should I have swallowed my pride and changed the date?


The other guy I’m thinking of asking is cool, but he isn’t my first choice because I don’t think we have any chemistry. Although this isn’t a ‘serious couples’ dinner, I wouldn’t invite someone who I don’t have a good rapport with.


What do I do?

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 12:15pm

It would be terribly rude to cancel or change the date just because your guy flaked out on you.


If you feel that you must have an even table, invite guy #2 (without of course letting him have a clue that he's option #2) or invite another single girlfriend, or another male friend, or your widowed Aunt Esther who doesn't get out much.


"Too many good docs are getting out of the business. Too many OB-GYNs aren't able to practice their love with women all across this country." - George W. Bush


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Registered: 03-01-2008
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 1:56pm
Well single people have been throwing dinner parties for years so I say "Have a party!"

 

 

 

 

 

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Registered: 12-19-2007
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 5:48pm

 Z

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 5:56pm

I was wondering if

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 6:40pm

I say just have the party without him!


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Registered: 08-12-2007
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 7:05pm

Hi. Thanks for the response.


This definitely isn't about my ego. I was just thinking that it would be inconsiderate to my guests to change the date just to accommodate one person who made other plans after he agreed to come on the scheduled date. I considered changing the date, but decided against it because the four other people had already agreed to it.


Me, nor my friends, are certainly not too 'cool' (we're all way

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Registered: 12-19-2007
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 7:11pm

 Z

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Registered: 08-12-2007
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 7:31pm

Hi!


No, I didn't. He's actually not my boyfriend...we're just friends. I do like him, though I'm not sure how he feels about me.


His plan is already set to go to Vegas. Besides, my little dinner party is no match for a Vegas trip. Ironically enough, me and my girlfriends (those same girlfriends who will be at the dinner party) are going to Vegas in May!


Thanks for the reply!

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 7:53pm

I agree with you that it'd be inconsiderate to try to reschedule now, since they've all already made plans for that weekend.