The Hostess Without A Date!
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| Wed, 03-05-2008 - 11:16am |
Hi all!
I’m in somewhat of a tough situation. I am hosting a dinner party in three weeks with six guests (my two girlfriends and their dates, myself, and my date). I have been really excited about this for the past few weeks until last night. My date told me that he’ll be out of town that weekend. Although he previously agreed to the date, he told me that he and family members decided this past weekend to go out of town together to Vegas! Of course, I was pissed. I know that a dinner at my place doesn’t compare to a Vegas trip; however, I was looking forward to him coming because I hadn’t seen him in a while (he lives nearly 100 miles from me) and he is the only guy I really wanted to ask to come.
So, he said that if I change the date for the weekend before, he’d come. For a split second, I thought about it, but decided that I didn’t want to change the date just to accommodate him and also my friends and their dates have all agreed to come on the planned date. So, now, I have to either find someone to take his place or cancel the dinner. Should I have swallowed my pride and changed the date?
The other guy I’m thinking of asking is cool, but he isn’t my first choice because I don’t think we have any chemistry. Although this isn’t a ‘serious couples’ dinner, I wouldn’t invite someone who I don’t have a good rapport with.
What do I do?

It would be terribly rude to cancel or change the date just because your guy flaked out on you.
If you feel that you must have an even table, invite guy #2 (without of course letting him have a clue that he's option #2) or invite another single girlfriend, or another male friend, or your widowed Aunt Esther who doesn't get out much.
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I say just have the party without him!
Hi. Thanks for the response.
This definitely isn't about my ego. I was just thinking that it would be inconsiderate to my guests to change the date just to accommodate one person who made other plans after he agreed to come on the scheduled date. I considered changing the date, but decided against it because the four other people had already agreed to it.
Me, nor my friends, are certainly not too 'cool' (we're all way
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Hi!
No, I didn't. He's actually not my boyfriend...we're just friends. I do like him, though I'm not sure how he feels about me.
His plan is already set to go to Vegas. Besides, my little dinner party is no match for a Vegas trip. Ironically enough, me and my girlfriends (those same girlfriends who will be at the dinner party) are going to Vegas in May!
Thanks for the reply!
I agree with you that it'd be inconsiderate to try to reschedule now, since they've all already made plans for that weekend.