The Thrill of the Chaste

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The Thrill of the Chaste
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Fri, 03-07-2008 - 6:42pm

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/23437024


What do you think about this?


Her basic point (I think) is that being "chaste" is the only way to find true love.

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Fri, 03-07-2008 - 7:39pm

I think a man who will wait to be with you, really loves you.

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Sun, 03-09-2008 - 10:33am

Chastity is, in the words of Dr. Mark Lowery, associate professor of theology at the University of Dallas, “that virtue by which we are in control of our sexual appetite rather than it being in control of us.”


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In the most basic terms she is a born again Christian, and she is saying flat out no sex outside of marriage, period. Now, she only "disclosed" her faith, she made a sound argument about her case on its on merits I think.


My ex GF . . .on our first date, we talked for hours . .and each of us had just been in bad relationships. So her "idea" was at least 30 dates before we even thought of sex. The plan was to get to know each other. We made it till the end of the second. ((-: But

We in America do not have government by the majority. We have government by the majority who participate.
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Sun, 03-09-2008 - 11:01am

I couldn't determine if she was against sex before marriage from her definition.

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Sun, 03-09-2008 - 11:36am

More than mere abstinence, which is purely physical, chastity flowers from within. While part of it does mean having sex only within marriage, it is not just about sex, but love. It is a lifelong journey of learning to love every individual in the fullest possible way — whether a friend, a relative, a spouse, or a stranger.


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I did say she made the argument on its own merit. (-: But she is making the argument that sex is a "part of marriage". Short and sweet, cant get to marriage if you confuse the "journey" with sex. I was raised in that world . . I understand the core values attached to the belief. And to a point I agree with the basic premise. Relationships based on sex alone are not relationships at all. Like I said . .like going to the gym.


I also don't think she was saying to withhold sex in a marriage. I belive her point was more along the lines that

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Sun, 03-09-2008 - 12:02pm

I do remember reading that part, but I wasn't clear on if she bought into that part of it, or if she was simply coming up with her own definition.


I still think she was advocating withholding sex in a marriage...given that a lot of marriages don't have that deep connection she was talking about.

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Sun, 03-09-2008 - 2:42pm

Hi Kristina,


I'm a man who does aspire to chaste dating standards and it is difficult to "date" nowadays for the reason you indicated.

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