hurting

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Registered: 11-08-2004
hurting
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Wed, 02-02-2005 - 11:28am
Well I was seeing my ex (who left me for another woman) on occasion and talking to him everyday. For 3 months he kept saying he didn't know if he was coming home, and he was still seeing her the whole time and telling her he was not coming home. Finally i told him that if I was going to stick with him through this that he had to stop seeing her. So instead he just tried to lie to me about it. I caught him with her, and I told him goodbye. I love him with all my heart, and he knows this. He knows I would let him come home. But, I can see very clearly that he does not love me, that he does not want to be with me, that I don't matter to him, and being with me is not important to him. He says she makes him happy, although he does not appear to be very happy at all. He is very confused. However, I can't hold on to someone that doesn't care about me or love me anymore. I did everything in my power to get him to come home to his wife and child, but I suppose you can't make someone love you. He still wants to talk to me everyday, although I am not sure why. I think he is just trying to keep tabs on me. She caught him with me a few times, and he lied to her about it and begged her not to leave him. He gets very upset when he thinks he is going to lose her, but he couldn't care less about losing me. I know I have to let go, it's just so hard. We were together 7 years, I don't know how I am ever going to stop loving him and stop hurting over this. I miss him very much. Anyway, any advice or support is greatly appreciated, please.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: smp91384
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 10:15am

Welcome to the board.... I'm just sorry that you find yourself here.


7 years of dreams don't just go away.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~