Anyone ever slapped ex's wicked GF?

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Anyone ever slapped ex's wicked GF?
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Sat, 02-05-2005 - 1:52am
I just got into it BIG TIME with my ex-h's girlfriend over the phone. I was trying to talk to him about his employment status (he got fired from his job in December and hasn't paid me c.s. since) and our conversation started to get heated and I could hear his GF in the background tellng him what to say to me (this was after she answered his cell phone of course because the woman is so insecure she feels she has to do that to make me jealous), anywho, she was giving so much of her "2 cents" that I could barely hear my ex-h talk so I finally told him, "Put her on the phone, she obviously has a lot to say to me so just put her on the phone!" and I let her have it. She tried to get the upper hand and shut me up but it didn't happen. But I am SO pissed at her AND him for that matter because he lets her run his life and she allows my ex to put her kids (she has 3 kids from two different guys from past relationships) over our one and only son. She's 4 years older than my ex-h and 5 years older than me and she just has this "I'm older and wiser" attitude about her yet she's EXTREMELY immature at the same time. Don't know how she pulls that off but she does, and well. I'm so angry with her. I've kept it in long enough and I don't promote violence either but she SERIOUSLY has it coming! WHAT TO DO?!?!? I told her she needs to respect the relationship my ex and I are trying to have by co-parenting and she needs to stay out of our business and she said, "His business is my business!" Does anyone else have one of these horrible ex's girlfriends in their lives? and if so, HOW THE HELL DO YOU DEAL?!?!?!? I'm hoping they don't last because she has given us nothing but troubles the minute he started dating her. HELP!!!



Edited 2/5/2005 12:14 pm ET ET by boobookitty73
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Sat, 02-05-2005 - 7:59am

no but I have wanted to... for the same reason you have.... except I get emails with the occassional phone call and she has demanded I speak only to her about MY kids. I have filed an order of protection against her.... that's about it though.

This GIRL ( I use that term loosely... she is only 20, ex H is 29 ) has created so many issues for me and my children and blames ME for every one of them.... exH stays out of it mostly, but when I finally get mad enough to insult back, that's when I get an email from him telling me I was at fault. That's when I blocked her from being able to contact me at all. This girl was questioning MY parenting abilities and thing she had no business questioning.

and after she insults me..... she comes with XH to pick up the kids when it is convenient for him....she stands there and says to my 1 year old "HI PUNKIN, WANNA COME TO MISS AMY?".... my daughter held on to me while I ignored her and handed her to my XH. ( she still cried when I handed her to him ) So... did I want to slap her... yes....but I won't confront in front of my children. ho hummmm but BOY DID I WANNA.

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Sat, 02-05-2005 - 9:24am
You can't slap her, but you can definitely fantazise about it.

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Sat, 02-05-2005 - 11:17am
I have been writing a sort of memoir of my separation and life now. I just wrote a great dream sequence where I get in a cat fight with my stbx's "friend". He won't admit there is more to their relationship. Anyway, it starts out as just a cat fight, but then I am somehow able to break the stupid b*^%$ in half. I never knew I was that strong or my brain could think up such strange stuff. The best part of the story is when I walk away with my new boyfriend, Brad Pitt, and my stbx looks after me with longing in his eyes as he tries to clean up his broken and bloody new "friend". I am not saying it is a masterpiece, but it is all that keeps me going some days. Maybe write your own dream sequence cat fight. I highly recommend it.
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Sun, 02-06-2005 - 6:26am

whoaaaa nelly!


you can of course FANTAZISE all you want (now its starting to feel like one of the episodes on friends where joey would fantazise.....)


and i truly understand that you are angry and upset


but i REALLY think you are wasting alot of energy and effort on the wrong places/people.


*this* situation is NOT *her* fault and in fact it is NONE OF HER BUSINESS so don't YOU make it HER business. IOW - *you* do not discuss this with *her*. period, end of discussion. your EX is the one who is with her - and that is HIS choice. its HIS choice to shack up with someone liker her - you don't have to LIKE or ACCEPT her - but *she* is not the issue. now its very very simple. what happens is that you are so angry and hurt and whatever - that you get OFF the *real* issue (which is the lack of CS) and you get embroiled into some, sorry, chick fight with some floozy. that might help you release some steam - but it really gets you nowhere.


Ex didn't pay? then you DON'T call him because you already KNOW where that will lead you. instead - you contact his lawyer or the court or whoever it is in your state who can enforce this - and you deal with it LIKE A GROWN UP (and, as my polish grandmother would say "like a lady"). if you need to contact him - then WRITE HIM

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Sun, 02-06-2005 - 2:57pm

HEHEHE. I have a very vivid memory of a wonderful, refreshing dream in which I slapped her with all the strength in my arms, then I wished her good luck - as I know the mess she is stepping in...

When I woke up from that dream, I realized I am fine, and I am ready to file...