i think its time to make up some lists

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i think its time to make up some lists
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Sun, 02-06-2005 - 12:26pm

10 reasons i am happy not to be living with ex anymore (or 5 or 50, or if you are still living with ex - 10 things you are looking forward to):


1. NO MORE SNORING


2. no more dribbling on the toilet and the floor of the bathroom.


3. no more sitting at the table with a pig (and i don't mean my 18 yo DS-the-human-vacuum-cleaner, i mean a 52 YO man who does not know the meaning of basic "table manners", and i do mean "basic")


4. no more having to deal with his moodiness, bad moods, depression.


5. don't have to pick up after the pig any more, or flush the toilets that he 'forgets' to flush, or the wet soggy towels.


6. no more ridiculous and never ending "discussions" about....NOTHING.


7. no more waiting for my HUSBAND to be LOVING and SUPPORTIVE


8.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 12:53pm

1. No more watching him pick his nose!!!
2. No more washing his skid marked underwear (he was worse than our dd)!
3. No more having to produce grocery store receipts and having him yell about it!!
4. No more finding his toenails on the edge of the bathtub.
5. No more rinsing out the bathroom sink after he hadn't shaved for 3 days.
6. No more having to spend all day sunday in the kitchen so that he could have his football snacks.
7. No more running to the liquor store at 11:45 p.m. saturday night so he wouldn't run out of beer during the games.
8. Of course, no more snoring.
9. No more name-calling and making me feel worthless,
10. And last but not least, NO MORE HAVING TO WATCH JAMES BOND, 007 MOVIES OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND....

I could go on and on, but I think you get the idea...

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 1:42pm

Ah, this is fun.... 10 reasons I am happy (insert sinister giggle)

I can drink a glass or two of wine and there's no one to "monitor" my imbibing. I can cut fat, calories, and whatever else. I don't have to keep chips and soda lying around to tempt me and incite the kids to riot.

I no longer have to be modestly clothed every moment. Come summer I can dress for the weather.

I have a bedroom with a real bed in it and I'm sleeping well.

I'M ONLY COOKING AND CLEANING FOR THREE! Ok, caps lock was on, but that one's worth shouting about!

Not only is there no one to accuse me of having a boyfriend, it's ok if I do!

My name is officially changed - no more brand on my hip! Getting my new driver's license tomorrow to prove it!

I can decorate in colors other than blue.

I do not have to be associated with that embarrassing man. If I embarrass myself, at least it's under my control.

No unwanted input on my writing.

Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. I can hang up the phone, tell him his questions are inappropriate, or just ignore him - and then walk away. I don't have to sacrifice my well-being to help him.

All right, folks, out with it. What is growing in the green pasture?

Hugs,

Calla

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 2:41pm

- No more having to give family and friends excuses why he did not come with me, again.

- No more watching him waste his life away playing video games online.

- No more blaming me for things I have no control over (including his feelings)

- No more looking at those nasty, rotting teeth

- No more ruining my credit and trying to hide it from me (several months of mortgage money remains unaccounted for, but it will never happen again).

- No more whining for new toys when we have no money (and I'm not referring to my 4 year old)

- No more having a person there refusing to touch me. Having satisfying sex in my life is now possible!

- My home is MINE.

- I can keep my home clean and organized!

- No more holding me back!

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Sun, 02-06-2005 - 2:55pm

Ooh, lately I've actually been thinking about what I will enjoy once he's out!

1.DH has a horrible habit of blowing his nose very loudly (think of the sound an elephant makes) when I'm on the phone. It embarrasses me because invariably the person on the other end always asks, "What was that?!?".

2.I won't have to watch him play video games, sleep on the couch, or write video games while I clean house, make dinner, help kids with homework etc.

3.Doing household maitenance will be easier to do myself than biting my tongue while I wait for him to do it.

4.Ugh,not having to clean up his beard hairs that he trims and leaves on the bathroom counter where it finds it's way into my soap and lotion bottles.

5.The idea that I may one day know a man who will appreciate me and love me and even show me he does.

6.Listening to whatever music, watching whatever T.V. shows and movies I like without getting teased for it.

7.Not having to wash his dirty laundry after picking it up off the floor.

8.Not waiting any longer for him to pull through yet another bout of depression.

9.Not worrying that I'll come home from work with the kids and find him dead.

10.Not acting like a single mom when I'm married - I'll actually be a single mom!!

Melanie

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 3:09pm

Yes, this is fun:


1. No more begging him to turn of Playstation so the rest of us can use the television.


2.

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 4:44pm
Amen sister...LOL
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Registered: 04-27-2003
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 8:21pm

ohhhhhhhhh, let's see....

10 reasons i am happy not to be living with ex anymore (or 5 or 50, or if you are still living with ex - 10 things you are looking forward to):

1. No more taking second to his computers.

2. I don't have to deal with his crazy mother or his crazy snobby sister because he refuses.

3. No more making excuses as to why we can't spend Christmas with family instead of alone.

4. No more cigarette smoke smell in EVERYTHING.

5. I can have sex when I want.... doesn't have to be every night... so HE can sleep.

6. I don't have to listen to stories about when he was growing up OVER AND OVER ( he is only 29 not 80 years old there isn't much to tell )

7. No more making excuses to our son for him being selfish and doing what he wants with or without us.

8. I can have friends now!

9. No more making excuses to his family as to why we can't be apart of family gatherings.

10. No more taking care of everyone else but me. No more worrying about him before I worry about me. No more doing things like MAKING him go to his grandmothers funeral, no more being someone I am not, no more misery, depression and angry life.

I am happy now...... I wasn't before. It took me a long time to realize that, but I don't need him to be happy.... I wasn't happy. I like me now and even though he tries to tell me I am crap and his girlfriend tells me I am scum.... I know and my kids know ( I have sole custody ) that I am ok and I will be ok. I need my kids... that is enough to make me happy.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 12:41pm

Ahhhhh......


I can actually have lunch with a girlfriend without his sulking, silent treatment OR calling me 50 times while I'm gone.


No more coming home to an internet history full of porn sites (from times when he said he was "working".... working what?????)


No more coming home to the obviousness that he'd been home taking a nap in the recliner while he said he was working.


No more being late everywhere we'd go because he said he was "working late" --by the way, this man had NOWHERE near the income


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-14-2004
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 7:39pm

1. No more waiting for the other shoe to drop

2. I can eat anything I want without him evaluating it.

3. I can put the kids to bed whenever I want and follow a schedule with them that I want.

4. I don't have to be constantly disappointed by his "forgetting" to do things that he promised to do.

5. I can get a dog and it can be the kind that I want.

6. No more nasty MIL.

7. I don't have to live with someone who truly doesn't love me.

8. I can read whenever I want and clean when and if I want to.

9. Mo more internet porn, computer games, etc (Why is this on so many lists?)

10. There is now a chance that someday I might me loved by someone for who I am, instead of being constantly anxious that I am not good enough.