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Making new friends?
| Tue, 02-08-2005 - 2:55pm |
For anyone that has gone through a divorce/separation, did you have a hard time making new friends once your marriage was over? I have a very small group of friends right now, and I don't go out with my friends much, unfortunately. Most of my time I feel is taken up by work, school, overtime, and raising my son. Were any of you successful in developing a new support system?
I haven't divorced or separated yet...just thinking about it.

Thank you, I appreciate your honesty, because I'm in a similar position. I think I would be very lonely, but heck, I'm lonely now anyway!
Hello,
I am in the same both, been separated for a month now. I am very lonely, too. I talk to my mother, a little too much, she is biased, and at times gets irritated when I ask questions. I definitely need to make some friends. I am not new to the city, been here for going on 4 years, just didn't get out alot before. I do freelance, one of my clients, I work from home for, and if I do go in, it's just me & her (her business is in her home). My other client is an all-male broadcast studio. If I had a really good group of friends, this might just be easier. But of course, when is life easy. I decided to do the same thing you're doing, try singles night at my church, if nothing else, to make friends. Wish me luck, it's on Saturday night, and I am so nervous and intimidated, because I have to go alone, and don't know a soul.
Mysterious32
i think it takes some work, and some creative thinking, but you can definately change you situation.
Good ideas! I guess I'm so used to having my son with me all the time outside of work hours, I wasn't thinking about days he would be with his dad. I'm not even separated yet, so I'm getting a little ahead of myself.
I have a couple of close friends, but I feel much better now knowing that everyone else's life isn't like Sex and th City...endless parties, dinners out, etc...lol!
lol - my life isn't like "sex and the city" or "friends" but the fun thing is that its MY life and *I* can do what i want! I can tell you this - when my son was younger, i DID fall into tthe trap of work/home because of all the guilt i was feeling. now my son is older and i am also guilt-ridden for the most part. looking back, i think that its more important for mom to feel good about herself - than to feel that she has to be with her kid every possible minute. if you don't take care of you - by building a network of friends, by exercising and eating well and sleeping, by developing yourself intellectually and spiritually - you are just going to turn into a robot.
its fine to leave your son with a baby sitter - or to exchange baby sitting services with a good friend.