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| Thu, 02-10-2005 - 8:50pm |
My name is Jenn and I'm a 27 year old SAHM of two wonderful boys. My husband and I have been seperated for about a year and a half now. Things are crazy between us at this point. The thing is that my first son is not biologically my husband's. From the first day we got together my son has always thought of him as daddy. My son was 4 at the time. He is now ten. He never realized that my husband was not his real dad until I talked to him about it recently. My husband has taken both the kids on a somewhat regular basis since we split up. Now he is turning around and telling me that he doesn't want anything to do with my son. My son wants to go with my ex because he is afraid that something might happen to his little brother (2) if he doesn't go. My ex's g-friend isn't very nice to the kids. I've talked to my lawyer about all this and she has informed me that because he took legal responsibilty of my son when he married me that he is still responsible even though we aren't together now. I think he figures that he won't have to pay child support for this child because the child isn't blood. The past two weekends that he was supposed to take the kids he refused to take my oldest so I told him that he could have neither of them. I called my lawyer right away and asked for interim custody only to find out that my lawyer is on holidays. I'm in Ontario and I'm feeling so lost right now. I don't know if it's possible for him to just turn his back on my oldest son without anything happening. I'm so scared right now. I think it would kill my son if that was to happen. I've tried to hide all of this from him but he's 10 years old now and he knows what's going on. I just wish I knew more about what I'm dealing with and whether or not he can get away with this. I think he's getting his information from a lawyer but I'm not sure. Tonight he asked me for my address so I figure I'm about to be served with something. The courts have been trying to contact him for the last year and no response has been made. It came down to me having to deliver papers myself because his boss won't acknowledge him working there and no one will let the messenger in the building where he lives. It's been a roller coaster and now he's turning it all around on me saying that I'm withholding the kids from him. I told him that if he wants to see the kids he can see both of them because he is the father of BOTH of them. Help please I need to keep from going crazy before I can talk to my lawyer. I'm really sorry if this is long and sounds really crazy.
Jenn

Oh Jen! That is AWFUL!!!!!!!! He is trying to punish you thru your son, & that is DISPICABLE! I dont know what to tell you - in one way i would be nervous about "forcing" him to take the 10 yr old, for fear of how he would be treated. But what a HORRIBLE situation for your older son ... & your younger one to, to have his "father" doing that to his brother.
I am praying he turns around & realizes what he is doing, Hugs to you R~
Hi Jenn..... if he legally "adopted" your oldest son, then he's ON the hook for support.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
If he took "legal responsibility" when they married, yes, he IS responsible for paying support.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~