newbie looking for some support

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Registered: 02-12-2005
newbie looking for some support
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Sat, 02-12-2005 - 4:29pm
I have been separated since June of 04, divorce pending. My STBX is out of the country currently on deployment. I guess I just want some support. I am really feeling low today. He left us (my daughter and I) for his "no-really-I-swear-she-is-just-a-friend-from-work". I don't really know what went wrong with us (other than the obvious!)because it truly was out of the blue. We have been together for 14 years. Some days are just so hard. I feel so overwhelmed with going back to school, caring for my daughter and just plain being alone. I'm so happy that I found this board. I just need someone to tell me it will be all right and really know what they are talking about. None of my friends have been divorced. I'm hurt and so very sad. I thought I knew this man, I thought he was a man of his word, a man of integrity. Not a man that lies and leaves his family. Please, when will this get better? I can't believe that he can leave and just be fine with it. We were best friends. I am so tired of this hurting me and I just want to be happy again and not feel like a fool, like there is something wrong with me, like I just wasn't good enough. Has anyone else felt this way? Thanks in advance. I just want to stop crying for a while, you know?
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Registered: 04-03-2003
Sat, 02-12-2005 - 5:20pm

i just wanted to say hi and offer some hugs. You WILL make it through!!

There is a "betrayed spouses" board which may help you deal with your feelings regarding his affair and all that.

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rladultery

Divorce is hard but there are alot of caring women here who can offer some good advice :)

jen

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 10:32am

hi and welcome! yes, you will get thru this, we all did or we all are in the process. i remember when i first came here, i was soooo scared and i couldn't understand how some people seemed to be so "together" = but here i am, about a year later, and i couldn't be in a better place in a my life.


it may be hard for you if none of your friends have gone thru a divorce, and it may be a good time for you to open up to NEW people. maybe there is a support group, or a *parents without partners* groups that you could join.


chin up, hang in there, it will get better!