V-Day & More

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Registered: 10-17-2004
V-Day & More
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 4:26pm
Hi, all. Well, my "husband" (I use that term losely!) has been living with a skank a few miles away for 1 month now. He has only spent one day with our 4 daughters since then. I work at night and my mil and a friend of mine has been helping watch the girls for me since I work at night. Well, he was supposed to watch them here Friday night, while I was at work. He arrived at 7:30 p.m. and had called his mom by 9:30 and was gone by 10:30! So much for spending time with his girls! During the 45 minutes before I left to go to work he did nothing but fuss at all of them and turned the surround sound up high and on some kind of rap/heavy metal crap. This man will be 37 this year!!! Oh well. All of this after I have told him that I was considering giving him joint custody because my girls deserve a father and he swears he can't live without them. Now don't you think that he would have showed a little more willingness to spend quality time with them? My oldest daughter said he made her go to bed @ 9:00.....on Friday night! Oh well.
Despite that fact the he's a piece of crap and that the most I ever received for V-Day was a card, I am not looking forward to tomorrow. I can picture him giving his low-life, nasty #$@%& roses & chocolate! Someone please tell me why this bothers me! I have already filed for divorce and I know I need to move on with my life, but some things just kill me! :) Oh well. I really think what bothers me the most is the fact that I'll never get the answers that I want.
One more thing, then I'll shut-up. I stopped and ate breakfast after work this morning and there was a very cute cop eating as well. We made eye contact a few times, but that's it. I didnt't see a wedding band. My question is this: what are the guidelines for opening a conversation with a complete stranger? I certainly don't want to appear desperate and I've never been good at meeting new people. Is it normal to think that someone wouldn't be interested in you before you even meet them? Despite the birth of my girls I have a nice figure and I consider myself to be attractive. Any hints or suggestions would be very helpful.
Sorry for the long post; I didn't realize I had so much pent-up stuff in here!! :)
Take Care